A Reason to Smile

A Reason to Smile


Q&A: Can Christians and non-Christians date?

posted by B. Dave Walters
It can work, buuut....

It can work, buuut….

Question submitted via Formspring:
“Can Christians and non-Christians date? If so is the outcome always one of being non-yoked?”

Yes, it’s possible for a Christian and a non-Christian to date successfully.  However, it’s going to take communication and effort…just like any other relationship.

For instance, if two people get together in the hopes of falling love and getting married, that’s no problem; if two people are just dating, or even just sleeping together, still no problem.  But, if one of you wants to get married and the other is just in it for the sex, you are in for problems.  Or, as a friend of mine once said: “Be careful you aren’t having sex with someone who’s making love!”

The same thing is true when it comes to spirituality.  If one of you is a former nun who attends sunrise Mass every day, and the other is a raging Atheist, you’re in for trouble.  But if one of you is a believer who goes to church once or twice a week, and the other was raised Christian but has drifted out of touch over the years, then things will be a bit easier.

Like anything, it isn’t necessary to be twins, but you *do* need to have a mutual respect and understanding.  For instance, one of you can’t start forcing the other to go to church, nor can you stop the other from going.  Are you going to celebrate holidays?  If so, which ones?  If you have kids, will they be raised as Christians, or not?  A common mistake is to believe you’ll let the kids grow up and decide, but that’s actually not possible since they’ll have religious questions LONG before that.  Not to mention how confusing it will be when Grandma has crucifixes on the walls, and Grandpa has Menorahs or Qurans in the living room.

The better question to ask yourself is what are your non-negotiables? What traits or beliefs does your significant other absolutely have to have, or not have in order for you to be happy? Is sharing common beliefs important to you? It certainly is for me.  Do you need to have the same political beliefs?   Some people believe in that as much or more than their religions.  Do you believe that children should be able to express themselves freely, or do you believe they need strict rules and harsh discipline?

As always, as long as you have someone you can respect, trust, love, and grow with, who can respect, trust, love, and grow with you…AND you can communicate with each other, your relationship will succeed.  If you can’t, it won’t.

What do you think she should do? Feel free to comment down below!

You are great, and I love you!
And if you love me back, click ‘share’ up at the top!

B. Dave Walters
Writer, Life Coach, and Talk Radio Host

Find out more about me:
http://about.me/BDaveWalters

Ask me anything:
http://formspring.me/BDaveWalters

Pages I support:
Jesus and Buddha – Interfaith dialog

Gnostic Theism – Religion and Spirituality for the 21st Century (Join the Movement!)

Love One Another – A group for the coolest Spiritual people on the Internet!

 

 



Previous Posts

Suicide, and making sense of the senseless.
“But in the end one needs more courage to live than to kill himself.” ― Albert Camus Anyone who’s lost a loved one to suicide knows how uniquely painful and confusing it can be.  The death of Ro

posted 1:24:39am Sep. 01, 2014 | read full post »

How to use the August Super Moon
Starting August 10, we’ll be experiencing one of the three ‘super moons’ of the summer, where the Moon is physically closer to the Earth, making it appear bigger and brighter in the sky.  This a

posted 11:01:13pm Aug. 09, 2014 | read full post »

Q&A: I STILL don’t know what to do with my life…HELP!
Question submitted via Formspring: “Hi, I've been reading some of your posts, really interesting and encouraging, I kinda feel better and not that lost but I can't stop thinking about what I can do.

posted 11:41:37pm Aug. 03, 2014 | read full post »

The Spiritual Lessons of Superheroes
As of the time of this writing, San Diego Comic Con is starting up.  I'll be appearing on a panel on Spiritual Themes in Comics on Saturday at 6 PM in room 4...stop by and see me if you're in town!

posted 5:58:23am Jul. 24, 2014 | read full post »

Expectations and the Law of Attraction
“There were two ways to be happy: improve your reality, or lower your expectations” ― Jodi Picoult Question submitted via Formspring: “How can I use the Law of Attraction to remove nega

posted 2:54:31am Jun. 30, 2014 | read full post »




Report as Inappropriate

You are reporting this content because it violates the Terms of Service.

All reported content is logged for investigation.