“Most people greatly over estimate what they can do in one year, but greatly underestimate what they can do in ten.” -Jim Rohn
I’m sure you’ve heard the saying ‘time flies when you’re having fun’? And I bet you’ve also heard that ‘a watched pot never boils’?
Why do you think that is?
Well, when you are having fun you are fully present in the moment. Enjoying it for what it is, and not worrying about anything else.
When you are ‘watching that pot’ you are worrying about why it’s taking so long, wondering when it is going to be ready, stressing over a process that is beyond your control, and it makes minutes seem to take hours.
There’s an important lesson there!
In the video below, I explain why cultivating a sense of patience is important and how to do it; so here I’d like to talk about it a little deeper and say some things I didn’t mention in the video.
If you’ve been following my radio show, you’ll know that I’ve been talking quite a bit lately about time, and how quickly it goes by. And a big part of why time seems to be flying for me, is I spend 99% of my time working to bring my goals into fruition, and helping other people accomplish theirs at the same time.
Look at the areas of your life where you are happy and content, and the areas where you might be stressed about what is going to happen.
Especially if it is an area where you are trying to apply the Law of Attraction but are having difficulty generating results.
And ask yourself, are you having fun, or watching the pot?
We talked before about gratitude and how it’s vital to making the Law of Attraction work, and patience is another critical part.
For reasons I explain in the video below, the Universe will bring your goals to you in the fastest, most direct way that it possibly can.
Any time you get hung up on waiting, wanting, stressing, you are *slowing down the process *.
The key is, you want to think about your goals as often as possible, WITHOUT resorting to worry.
Focus on how good it will feel, focus on the ‘fun’ and the time will fly so fast you won’t believe how quickly everything started to manifest for you!
Another important aspect of patience, is compromise. You may think they are unrelated, but in truth they have everything to do with one another.
Recently I’ve had the opportunity to work with several Coaching Clients who are ‘control freaks’. What I mean by that, is they have difficulty going with the flow; difficulty trusting other people and circumstances to always work out for the best.
Now, I can’t guarantee that if left to their own devices, people will always do what you want them to. After all, people are going to do what they are going to do. But what I CAN guarantee, is trying to micro-manage them is a recipe for unhappy and inauthentic relationships.
Think about it: are you in a relationship with them because you like and care about them, or because you like and care about you? If you are in it because you are interested in them and their personality, then why would you try and override that by making them do what YOU want all the time?
And not only that, being a control freak is more than a little hypocritical. Since you expect everyone to conform to your wishes, but by definition are unwilling to conform to anyone else’s. And if you expect people to do one thing, while you yourself do another, that makes you a hypocrite.
So, let’s resolve to change!
Resolve today to start letting go.
I mention in the video below the need to cultivate a sense of ‘positive paranoia’; forge a belief that people and forces are working FOR you, rather than against you.
And look, can I promise you that expecting the best will GUARANTEE that nothing bad will ever happen to you? Of course not.
But what I can tell you for sure, is not only does expecting the worse bring more bad things into your life, it prevents you from seeing all the wonderful things that are happening all around you at this very instant.
So what is it going to be: are you going to enjoy the ride and watch time fly, or watch the pot and always be dissatisfied?
The choice is yours and yours alone to make.
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