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Q&A: Is the Ego a bad thing?

Everything in balance

(Unedited) Question submitted via Formspring:

“I’ve been to a lot of spiritual seminars, and most of them tend to say that the EGO is a bad thing. Is that necessarily true?”

An excellent question!

We discussed this question on a recent episode of Rise UP with B. Dave Walters, along with:
LOVE, Dealing with the ego, *how to read people*, building confidence, DATING, Astrology (and if it’s ‘real or not’), and LOTS more Q&A!

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However, there is always more we can say on this particular topic.

First and foremost: no, the ego is not ALWAYS a bad thing.

The first thing to remember is that we actually have two ‘egos’, the ‘positive and the ‘negative’ ego.  The reality is, like the Yin/Yang symbol image, we need both our ‘light’ and ‘dark’ sides in order to be whole.  But what many people don’t know is that there is a third force, represented by that circle in the middle of the image: Wu.  The void, nothingness; but being nothing, it is everything.

This is an important lesson: both yin and yang, positive and negative, need to be in balance.
What many people often over look, is that even if it was possible to get rid of our ‘negative’ ego (it isn’t, by the way), it actually wouldn’t be good for us even if we could.

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The reason why this is, is that in its own way, the ‘negative’ ego is still trying to help us.

The little voice that tells you that you aren’t good enough, is in reality trying to shield you from disappointment.  In the same way, the even smaller, still, voice is trying to guide you to achieve your greatness (also discussed on a recent episode of Rise UP).

The goal then is not to try to completely get rid of your ego, but to recognize it isn’t YOU at all.

Your ego, positive and negative, is the accumulation of a lifetimes’ worth of experiences, emotions, baggage, trauma, issues, hopes and inspirations.  And whatever comes to us from God / The Universe gets filtered through the lenses of our ego before we can comprehend it.

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Here is a secret, but once you know it your life will become MUCH easier:  just because a thought pops into your head doesn’t mean you have to believe it.

Considering every thought you have gets filtered through your ego, it’s your job to weigh each of them and decide whether or not you want to accept it.   It’s like those cartoons where you have the ‘good’ angel and the ‘bad’ angel…except the one you listen to most does the most talking.

There is an old Cherokee legend that sums it up nicely:
An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life. “A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy.

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“It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.” He continued, “The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?”

The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”

What do you think ? Feel free to comment down below!

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B. Dave Walters

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  • http://www.udp-is.com/ CayuseWarrior

    As I said, that speak volumes of you energy.

    As Einstein proved every action has a reaction. And energy cannot be created or destroyed.

    So look in the mirror for your reaction of your action.

  • Kayla Elly

    shut up

  • http://about.me/bdavewalters B. Dave Walters

    Absolutely!

  • http://www.udp-is.com/ CayuseWarrior

    Interesting, Thank You!

    I returned to a small town where I grew up 21 years ago for a work life balance of quite with little population and good work and pay 240 miles away. Now the whole high school is returning home and I am feeling that same immature undeveloped (body, mind and soul) being stuck in physical consciousness and back in 1964 after 50 years. The same negative ego you describe instead of the positive you describe. As AA says: “Accept the things you cannot change and change the things you can change”.

    Thanks for helping me realize this ego as a significant difference between each persons own KARMA (sum of negative and positive ego), physical self motivation and his own Spirtuality. The difference between now and then still exits, but only in your own mine if you let it. That is what evolved my body, mind and soul to be the best I can be totally of negative ego not demanding acceptance and comparison of others own journey or lack there of. The best I can be. Realizing the oneness of us all cannot not been seen through the physical material world. It is an individual journey and not a Glee Club approach at all. Not unrelated to physical condition on earth with USA’s Unprovoked War, Economic Advantage and Social Popularity existing Now and Always has been.

    John 4:24 “God is a Spirit: and they that worship him must worship him in spirit and in truth”.

    John 3:3 “3 Jesus replied, “Very truly I tell you, no one can see the kingdom of God unless they are born again.” (in Spirit)

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