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Q&A: “Is it OK to kiss him if he doesn’t want a relationship?”

posted by B. Dave Walters

She doesn't seem to into it, does she?

(Unedited) question submitted via Formspring:
“Hi Dave, is it OK to have a kiss knowing nothing if he really wants to have a relation with me & just because I love him?”

Sure, why wouldn’t it be?
A kiss is a harmless show of affection, no big deal.
UNLESS you come from a culture where a kiss *is * a big deal, in which case you might want to hold off until you know what his intentions are.

A better question is, how is it that you ‘love’ this guy, and yet you don’t know if he even wants a relationship?
It seems like he has at least tried to kiss you, if not succeeded; so it stands to reason some level of attraction is there.
Don’t get into asking if he loves you after a few kisses, or even after a few dates; but watch him and what he does.
If he says he wants a relationship, then he probably does.
If he says he cares about you, he probably does.
If he says sweet things, and more importantly DOES sweet things, then yes he probably has feelings for you.

If he is kissing you today, and trying to get you in bed tomorrow, then chances are high he’s not looking for a relationship at all, but just wants to get in your pants.

Go as far as is enjoyable and comfortable to you; if that’s a little kiss, fine; a lot of kissing, fine; if anything starts to feel bad, or wrong at any time: STOP.

It seems like you probably haven’t had a lot of experience with guys, may be young, or both; so here is a final piece of advice:
Don’t let him take your clothes off until he’s at least been your boyfriend for a few months (or married)!

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