A Moment of Change

Sherry Gaba LCSW, Psychotherapist, Life& Recovery Coach is featured Celebrity Rehab on VH1. Sherry is the authorof “The Law of Sobriety” which uses the law of attraction to recover from any addiction. Please download yourcopy of “Manifest Holistic Health” from Sherry’s Enrich Your Life Series. Contact Sherry at for webinars, teleseminars, coaching packages and speaking engagements. Listen to Sherry on “A Moment of Change with Sherry Gaba”on CBS Radio.

Many years ago  one of the key slogans or phrases of the day to tell people that seemed to have an
issue with what you were doing, thinking or saying that they needed an
“attitude adjustment”. In fact, most people that find that others are
negative, unhelpful, destructive or even obstructionist may need to do a
self-attitude adjustment before they are able to see any meaningful change.
Constantly butting heads, figuratively of course, with everyone around you may
be a sign that you have a real problem.

I outlined a scenario of a self-attitude adjustment in my book, “The Law of Sobriety”. I learned
about focusing in on using the Law of Attraction, or the need to seek the
positives in the world can work wonders in your life. In my scenario I talk
about my own experiences in searching for someone that embodied what I wanted
to help me through a difficult time in my life. Unfortunately I thought it was
material things that mattered, but what I came to understand it was spiritual
or internal coaching that I needed.

Learning to have an attitude of gratitude turned my life around. Instead of looking for negatives
in people, I looked for what they contributed to my life that was positive. I
looked to what I appreciated, which I found in overwhelming qualities once I
stopped grieving over what I didn’t have. I quickly discovered that once I
ceased mentally whining about not having the “things” I wanted but
rather focused on the opportunities I had, the universe magically provided
those things. Through seeing opportunities my options for becoming who I wanted
to be was right there, crystal clear, with positive people to guide me whenever
I needed them. This understanding was and is the essential attitude adjustment
we all need.

Sherry Gaba LCSW, Psychotherapist, Life& Recovery Coach is featured Celebrity Rehab on VH1. Sherry is the authorof “The Law of Sobriety” which uses the law of attraction to recover from any addiction. Please download yourcopy of “Manifest Holistic Health” from Sherry’s Enrich Your Life Series. Contact Sherry at for webinars, teleseminars, coaching packages and speaking engagements. Listen to Sherry on “A Moment of Change with Sherry Gaba”on CBS Radio.

Read more: you are single, divorced, just out of a relationship or finding yourself on your own you may be asking the age old questions of where the good relationships have gone. In fact, the good relationships are there, just as they always have been; rather your way of looking at those around you has changed. People that have been let down, rejected, left behind or just plain old dumped have a different way of experiencing new relationships, which is largely tainted by the negative energy from the last one. Changing your way of looking at relationships and those around you is the only way to open the door to experiencing a positive new interaction.

If you think back to a time you were hurt by a lover, spouse, partner or good friend, you can probably remember every detail. You can remember the clothes they were wearing, the time of year, the place that it happened and the intense pain that you felt when you heard those devastating words. Can you also recall that for a period of time, sometimes short and sometimes long, you seemed to run into people that were also jerks? Why do you think that was? Do you think you may have been looking for these people or only able to see the flaws in those around you?

One way to answer these questions is the central component in a concept known as the Law of Attraction. This law, which is known by many names around the world and throughout history, basically says that what we think about and what we dwell on is what we see in our environment. In other words if we think about people that are negative and hostile, that is what we see. If, on the other hand, we choose to think about the positive attributes we want in a date, partner, spouse or lover we are much more likely to see these attributes in the people around us. We can use our positive energy to influence our relationships and become more open to the positive energy in those that are just what we are looking for.

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Shopping addiction is not a joke, it is not something that
is a minor source of irritation between families and it is not a uniquely
female problem. Individuals with shopping addictions, also known as
shopaholics, have a compulsion to simply buy things as a way to fill a void in
their life. Shopping addictions may be part of the way that a person is taught
to celebrate success or they may be a result of a serious emptiness that has
become overwhelming in a person’s life.

Often shopping addictions are seen as a minor problem,
something to be teased about or even rewarded, at least initially. After all
how many times have you heard people talking about going out for a bit of
“retail therapy” when they really mean that if you don’t feel good go
buy something that makes you feel good. After a few shopping trips when you
feel bad you may begin to shop compulsively when you aren’t happy about life.
The action of buying an inanimate object becomes a substitute for praise,
acceptance or feelings of self-worth and value.

Shopaholics or shopping addicts tend to have several
characteristics in common. Consider the following questions about your spending
habits and honestly think about the response you give.

  • Do I shop when I feel depressed, sad or angry to
    make myself feel better?
  • Do I spend money on things I really can’t
  • Do I stay within my budget when I shop or do I
    buy things because I have to have them regardless of the cost?
  • Do I hide my shopping behavior, lie about the
    prices I pay or have hidden accounts to pay for my shopping habits?
  • Will I shop when I should be doing something
  • Have I ever stolen a credit card or money from a
    friend or a loved one to spend on a purchase?
  • Do I have multiple credit cards that I use to
    keep my head above water?
  • Do I feel guilty about shopping and buying items
    on a regular basis?

If you answered yes to one or more questions you may have a
shopping addiction. In addition if your relationships are stressed or strained
because of shopping, hiding purchases or juggling accounts to cover the
spending it is essential to seek help from an addiction therapist before there
are serious financial and personal repercussions.

Sherry Gaba LCSW, Psychotherapist, Life
& Recovery Coach is featured Celebrity Rehab on VH1. Sherry is the author
of “The Law of Sobriety” which
uses the law of attraction to recover from any addiction. Please download your
copy of “Manifest Holistic
” from Sherry’s Enrich Your Life Series. Contact Sherry at for webinars,
teleseminars, coaching packages and speaking engagements. Listen to Sherry on “A Moment of Change with Sherry Gaba”on CBS Radio.

A lot of people are talking today; it seems they have a lot to say. Enter
reality television, talk shows and blogs galore (yes, I’m aware of the irony of
that last example). And while there is nothing wrong with putting your ideas out
there, the other side of the equation – listening – often gets lost along the

Meredith Watkins, MFT, a psychotherapist in San Diego, states, “One of the most valuable
gifts you can give people is genuinely listening to them. It’s amazing to me how
simple, yet effective that can be in helping others heal. One of the most
frequent comments I get from clients is, ‘I feel so much better just talking
about this.’”

But active listening is a skill. Eleanor Roosevelt wrote about how to become more
proficient at listening in her book, You Learn By Living:
“If you approach each new person you meet
in a spirit of adventure, you will find that you become increasingly interested
in them and endlessly fascinated by the new channels of thought and experience
and personality that you encounter…
If such a search is to be successful, however, you will need two qualities which you can develop by
practice. One is the ability to be a good listener. The other is the imaginative
ability to put yourself in the other person’s place; to try to discover what he
is thinking and feeling…I used to think that the reason my husband’s
fireside chats were so successful was largely that he had learned to state
complicated questions in a clear and simple way so that no one could fail to
understand him.”

This, I believe, is no small point. Is it possible that
one of the most respected and beloved president in recent history was successful
because he listened and empathized with those he met? And made the effort to
communicate in such a way that the listener would truly understand? This is
something any of us can do at any time.

Acknowledge those around you: look them in the eye and let them know they are seen and respected, simply for

Sherry Gaba LCSW, Psychotherapist, Life
& Recovery Coach is featured Celebrity Rehab on VH1. Sherry is the author
of “The Law of Sobriety” which
uses the law of attraction to recover from any addiction. Please download your
copy of “Manifest Holistic
” from Sherry’s Enrich Your Life Series. Contact Sherry at for webinars,
teleseminars, coaching packages and speaking engagements. Listen to Sherry on “A Moment of Change with Sherry Gaba”on CBS Radio.

Most of us believe, in theory, that we should make efforts to take better care of
ourselves, through better eating, more exercise, or working our recovery
programs. But we can fall into the trap of forgetting to engage or these
behaviors. Under the surface, there might be another reason we don’t follow
through: we don’t really believe that we deserve to tend to our personal
well-being. Self-care is often erroneously and critically labeled selfishness. It’s not. Even Jesus and
Gandhi took time for themselves, withdrawing from the crowds to tend to their

Time  spent in self-care fills us up so we can give of ourselves and not be left dried
and shriveled up like last summer’s grapes left on the vine. Most of us can
relate to the feeling of running on empty. This automotive analogy is actually a
good one. What can our car do for us with no gasoline in the tank? Be a large,
shiny driveway ornament? Not so useful. So why do we expect ourselves to be able
to run and give and work and cook and clean and put on a happy face with nothing
fueling us? It’s crazy, and it’s high time we kick crazy to the curb.

Make yourself a priority. Make the time to do the things that fill you up. For some,
it may be a leisurely stroll on the beach. For others, 30 uninterrupted minutes
with a great book. Or a fabulous bike ride or coffee with your friends or seeing
your loving therapist (see how I slid that one in?). Or seeing a movie in the theatre. It doesn’t have to be a
weeklong trip to Tahiti (though if you get the opportunity, I highly recommend
jumping at it). In fact, they should be the small things that you love. The ones
that bring you peace and a sense of reconnection with yourself. Small things are
doable and can be easily incorporated into your everyday life. Pick a few and
put them on your calendar, in your Blackberry, whatever — and then actually do them.

For those resisters who think, “I can’t possibly take that time. I won’t be able to
be there as much for my kids and spouse and boss” — stop making excuses.
Because, honestly, that’s what that is. If your kids or spouse or boss had to
choose between someone who was happy and creative and energized when they were
with them or someone who was barely hanging on by a thread, who do you think
they would choose? Who would you choose? By investing in yourself, you create dividends to extend to those around
you. When you’re running on empty, all you’re giving them are your fumes. Not

Put aside those faulty notions of the nobility of killing yourself for the greater
good. Realize that your greatest gift to give others is the best version of