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Love Addiction: When Caring Becomes Dangerous

posted by sherrygaba

To many people the idea of a love addiction seems far
fetched or something that is just made up to explain irrational behaviors. However,
love addiction is not a new concept. Early literature and history are full of
references to people, often very powerful and famous people, which allowed
their dependence on another person to cause their downfall or even death. Why some
people become so dependent on another is largely a factor of emotional needs
that are not met through positive relationships but are somehow met through
negative and destructive relationships.

Love addiction is more than just an emotional need that
isn’t met, there is a potential for serious injury and even death because of
this behavior. When a person continues in a relationship that is abusive,
either physically or mentally, there is a very real danger. Women and men are
abused in relationships, and unfortunately death by an intimate partner is a
very real concern in today’s society. Knowing when love has become an addiction
starts by asking the following questions:

  1. Have I been hurt, physically or emotionally, by my
    partner?
  2. Do I make excuses or rationalize the abuse?
  3. Do I tend to choose partners that are
    emotionally distant or do I have a history of being in abusive relationships?
  4. Is there a give and take in this relationship or
    do I give and give but seem to get nothing or very little in response?
  5. Can I leave this relationship and move on in my
    life?

Answering these questions honestly is the first step in
determining if you may have an addiction to love that is potentially harmful or
dangerous. Most people need help with this very serious issue and greatly
benefit from talking with a therapist or counselor that specializes in
addictions and addiction recovery.

Facebook And Twitter: Lack Of Self-Control Or Addiction?

posted by sherrygaba

There are several signs to be on the lookout for to
determine if you hare passing the point of just enjoying your online time to
becoming addicted to having constant updates as to what everyone you know is
doing. With the new smartphones, iPads, tablets and everything else it is now
easier than ever to stay socially plugged in, but is there a risk to our mental
health because of this constant bombardment of information?

When considering your use of technology do you find that:

  1. You simply have to have access to your social
    media sites at all times?
  2. You ask people you are talking to wait or
    “hold that thought” when you see a new post has been added or someone
    has made a comment on your accounts?
  3. You avoid activities that limit your ability to
    stay connected to the online world?
  4. You are sneaking time at work or from your
    family to connect with people online that you have never actually met?
  5. You fill uneasy or uncomfortable when you cannot
    have access to the internet in some form?
  6. You lie to others about your online time or your
    Facebook, Twitter or social media use?

Internet use and addiction has become an area of controversy
with many addiction therapists, counselors and experts in the field. There is
no doubt that some people have addictive like behaviors around the use of
social media and the need to constantly be in touch. Recognizing the line
between enjoyment of the social media and an addiction is often problematic,
especially as younger and younger people grow up with constant access to their
online world and friends.

At the point where the need to be online starts to create
problems at work, home or in a relationship there is a strong possibility there
is an addictive component. Talking to an addiction specialist to learn ways to
control the behavior and prevent loss of family, friends, employment and
relationships is critical in developing a balanced approach to life and
technology.

Boundaries, Protecting Yourself And Dealing With Partners

posted by sherrygaba

Sherry Gaba LCSW, Psychotherapist, Life & Recovery Coach is featured Celebrity Rehab on VH1. Sherry is the author of “The Law of Sobriety” which uses the law of attraction to recover from any addiction. Please download your copy of “Manifest Holistic Health” from Sherry’s Enrich Your Life Series. Contact Sherry at sherry@sgabatherapy.com for webinars, teleseminars, coaching packages and speaking engagements. Listen to Sherry on “A Moment of Change with Sherry Gaba”on CBS Radio.

Often people that develop addictions in their life are dealing with very dysfunctional family histories. Within the family there may have been very little sense of respect and personal accomplishment, instead everything was done to please a parent or to cover up a secret within the family. This leaves the children unable to understand how relationships work. Their negative experience with the most basic relationship; that of a child and parent, is so distorted that the best theycando is to try to sustain the same type of relationship with someone else.

In “The Law of Sobriety” I state that, “Some of the more common relationship boundaries that addicts and alcoholics overstep include extremes of attachment: they either get too close and fused with another person or remain distant and disengaged from that person.” This over-attachment leads to a complete submission to the other person where individuality is denied in order to be just what that person wants. Knowing if you are in this type of attachment issue is important so that you can start to develop and define boundaries that allow you to be you while still remaining a strong partner in a relationship.

Talking to your partner isn’t always easy. You do need to be able to communicate several specific items to begin to set up boundaries. These include:

  1. What is acceptable behavior and what is not acceptable in the relationship
  2. How open and honest communication can occur in the relationship
  3. Consequences for failing to follow the boundaries developed

As the recovering addict or alcoholic you have to find your own true self and learn that you can exist without that other person. You may find that to bring about a positive relationship you have to get out of the current negative one. This means recognizing that you have options in future relationships, releasing those doubts and negative messages, and being open to helping yourself by finding a partner that will honor, respect and love you for who you really are.

Dealing With Hoarding: 4 Behaviors To Watch For

posted by sherrygaba

Sherry Gaba LCSW, Psychotherapist, Life & Recovery Coach is featured Celebrity Rehab on VH1. Sherry is the author of “The Law of Sobriety” which uses the law of attraction to recover from any addiction. Please download your copy of “Manifest Holistic Health” from Sherry’s Enrich Your Life Series. Contact Sherry at sherry@sgabatherapy.com for webinars, teleseminars, coaching packages and speaking engagements. Listen to Sherry on “A Moment of Change with Sherry Gaba”on CBS Radio.

Hoarding is a very real problem in the lives of many people.
While professionals may argue if it is a true addiction or if it is more of a
compulsive behavior, the truth is that hoarding is much more common than you
may think. You have probably been flipping around the channels on your
television and come across one or more shows on hoarding and the devastation it
causes. People will hoard anything from live animals to garbage and need
coaching, support and decision making skills training in order to start
changing the behavior.

Hoarders, like those suffering with an addiction, cannot
simply stop the behavior. The piles of items will continue to increase and
people will become more and more secretive if intervention is not completed.
They will continue engaging in the behavior, particularly if they feel pushed
by the family to change. Getting a life coach or addiction therapist involved
is critical.  A new framework for identifying
with positions and finding value in their lives is also essential.  If you are dealing with a family member that
is hoarding or you suspect may be engaging in compulsive hoarding seeking
professional help is a critical first step.

The major signs of hoarding include:

  1. High levels of clutter and collections of random
    items or one specific item to the point of making living space unusable.

 

  1. Distorted view on the value of everyday, broken,
    damaged or outdated items by the individual engaging in the hoarding behavior.

 

  1. Refusal to allow others in to the home, specific
    rooms in the home, yard or living or storage space.

 

  1. Excessive emphasis on collections or collecting
    items that are not valuable and not well cared for once in the person’s
    possession.

The Glass Is Never Half Empty

posted by sherrygaba

Sherry Gaba LCSW, Psychotherapist, Life
& Recovery Coach is featured  Celebrity Rehab on VH1. Sherry is the author
of “The  Law of Sobriety” which
uses the law of attraction to recover from any  addiction. Please download your
copy of “Manifest  Holistic
Health
” from Sherry’s Enrich Your Life Series. Contact Sherry at sherry@sgabatherapy.com for  webinars,
teleseminars, coaching packages and speaking engagements. Listen to  Sherry on “A Moment of Change with Sherry Gaba”on CBS Radio.

Being an eternal optimist is one label that is never going to cause you any problems. Unfortunately most people are only occasional optimists or chronic pessimists. This is particularly true when there are addictions involved in a person’s life. The negative impact of the addiction, the feelings of guilt, remorse, loss and despair that go along with addiction can cause people to always see the glass as half empty and draining quickly. “The Law of Sobriety”, my book that focuses in on attracting positive energy in your life to overcome addiction and make changes, highlights several ways to release that negativity and bring good things to your world. I would like to give you three tips to change your view of the world to focus on the positive aspects of change rather than on the negative. Eliminating those negative thoughts that are shaping what your life experience is allows room for different perspectives; the glass is half full view, to fill your mind and life with positive experiences.

Tip 1 Thinking About Doing One of the biggest mistakes that recovering addicts make is to not give enough thought to the specific actions they are taking in their life. In other words they tend to simply “do things” without thinking about why, how and what they are doing. It is like taking a trip without a GPS system or a map. Sure, you are traveling and going somewhere, but it is anywhere you want to be? If you are randomly doing things and taking actions you will likely use those same negative thoughts you have always had to frame the reasons why the actions were selected.

Tip 2 Thinking About Thinking Metacognition is the fancy term for thinking about your thinking. Understanding and releasing those negative thought patterns about yourself will allow you to bring in different and contrasting positive thoughts about yourself. When you stop to reflect on your thoughts and change from a glass half empty to half full positive energy will flood your world, leaving the glass always full.

Tip 3 Thinking About A Positive You The way you think and the things that you do from now on have to focus on the positive vision or image of yourself that you have within your mind. You have to let go of the niggling negativity that says, “You can’t do this and you can’t change” and embrace the image of yourself as you want to be. Seeing a clean and sober you living a happy, rewarding and successful life dispels those negative thoughts and allows you to take full advantage of the change opportunities that you will find all around you.

Michael Jackson: The Overshadowing of a Legacy

posted by sherrygaba

Sherry Gaba LCSW, Psychotherapist, Life & Recovery Coach is featured Celebrity Rehab on VH1. Sherry is the author of “The Law of Sobriety” which uses the law of attraction to recover from any addiction. Please download your copy of “Manifest Holistic Health” from Sherry’s Enrich Your Life Series. Contact Sherry at sherry@sgabatherapy.com for webinars, teleseminars, coaching packages and speaking engagements. Listen to Sherry on “A Moment of Change with Sherry Gaba”on CBS Radio.

Michael Jackson’s last tour was envisioned and designed to allow his children to actually see him in concert with all his considerable talent on display. No one can argue that Michael Jackson was the consummate performer and that as a father it would be critical for him to be able to allow his children to see him in all his glory. However, how far did the need to put himself in the public eye and all the stress that went with that decision contribute to his death due to overdose?

In the four weeks of trial to date there have been numerous conflicting pieces of information and testimony. It seems that the defense’s strategy is to show that Michael Jackson actually overdosed by his own hand and that Dr. Conrad Murray had nothing to do with the actual administration of the lethal combination of medications. But, in reality, does this actually matter? Why wasn’t someone looking out for Michael Jackson, tempering his desire to be on the stage and performing with the realities of his mental and physical health conditions?

It seems to many of the millions of fans of Michael Jackson that someone, somewhere in all the many well paid professionals on his staff should have said enough long before this point. While there were others, wouldn’t it make sense that the medical expert hired to care for him should have had Michael’s health and well being in mind? And where in all this did Michael Jackson’s own beliefs in himself, his talents and his legacy come into play in the decision to continue on with the tour when he couldn’t sleep and often was unable to complete rehearsals?

Throughout Michael Jackson’s life there have been controversies, legal wrangling and rumors of addictions and mental health problems. It is just so sad that his talent is now lost, with no one looking out for “The Man In The Mirror” or the legacy that he leaves behind.

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Internet Gaming Addiction: Not Just Kids Play

posted by sherrygaba

Sherry Gaba LCSW, Psychotherapist, Life& Recovery Coach is featured Celebrity Rehab on VH1. Sherry is the authorof “The Law of Sobriety” which uses the law of attraction to recover from any addiction. Please download yourcopy of “Manifest Holistic Health” from Sherry’s Enrich Your Life Series. Contact Sherry at  http://www.sgabatherapy.com/ServicesProvided.en.html for webinars, teleseminars, coaching packages and speaking engagements.

The internet is a wonderful tool and a great source of
entertainment, relaxation and fun for many people. Kids, adults and seniors are
finding new ways to play their favorite card, board and role play games online
with people from all over the world. While internet gaming itself is not bad
there are increased concerns by mental health professionals that some people
are becoming addicted to online gaming.

Online gaming addiction, sometimes referred to as video game
addiction, can be used as an escape from the stress in the world around people.
This is particularly true with role playing games where the player develops an
alternate persona within the game. They identify strongly with that character
and often attribute characteristics to that animated being that they feel are
deficient or absent in their life. Over time the need to feel the positive
attributes of the game character can create changes in the brain that are
similar to other types of psychological addictions such as gambling, shopping
or viewing pornography.

Understanding the symptoms of internet gaming addition is
the first step in seeking help through addiction counseling services. The major
symptoms noted with this addiction include:

  • Spending excessive amounts of time online in the
    game while neglecting real relationships, commitments and requirements in daily
    life.
  • Discussion about the game or the role play
    characters as if they were real individuals or actual events that occurred in
    the person’s life.
  • Sleep deprivation and poor eating patterns,
    often spending hours to days on the computer without sleeping or eating.
  • Missing work or school to stay home and play
    online.
  • Misrepresenting time spend playing online or
    hiding the activity.
  • Withdrawal from previously valued or enjoyed
    social activities and regular interactions with friends and family.
  • Headaches, eye problems and back or joint
    problems due to long periods at a computer without exercise, breaks, sleep or
    proper nutrition.

If these symptoms are noted in a family member, friend or
loved one seeking support for that person with an addiction recovery therapist
is essential. Failing to get help will only increase the probability that this
behavior will cause serious consequences in the individual’s life.

 

Triggers For Binge Eating: Gaining Control By Looking for Warning Signs

posted by sherrygaba

Sherry Gaba LCSW, Psychotherapist, Life& Recovery Coach is featured Celebrity Rehab on VH1. Sherry is the authorof “The Law of Sobriety” which uses the law of attraction to recover from any addiction. Please download yourcopy of “Manifest Holistic Health” from Sherry’s Enrich Your Life Series. Contact Sherry at  http://www.sgabatherapy.com/ServicesProvided.en.html for webinars, teleseminars, coaching packages and speaking engagements.

Binge eating is a serious issue for people of all ages,
walks of life and weight levels. In essence binge eating is a repetitive
pattern of consuming large amounts of foods which are typically high energy
foods such as fats and carbohydrates. This is not the same as eating too much
at Thanksgiving dinner; it is a habitual behavior, an addiction to food as a
way to deal with stressors in your life. It is also a very secretive behavior that
causes huge amounts of guilt, denial and a feeling of spiraling out of control.

There are some simple strategies that people that have
difficulties with binge eating can use to help to learn about the underlying
factors that prompt this behavior. The following tips can be used to determine
your triggers:

  1. Keep an emotion journal – write down any
    emotional events or conflicts that occur and if you engage in binge eating
    after these events. Be detailed and specific about what you experienced
    emotionally. The biggest triggers for binge eating tend to be anger,
    frustration, guilt and boredom.
  2. Track your physical well being levels. Typically
    binge eating occurs when people are tired, fatigued or are not feeling up to
    par. Getting lots of rest, staying or becoming physically active and making the
    healthiest food choices possible is important.
  3. Seek counseling support – binge eating is a
    complex behavior that is driven by many different emotional factors. Talking to
    a trained addiction counselor will assist in learning this triggers and
    effective techniques to change the behavior.

Binge eating can also have genetic and medical factors.
There is evidence that inherited genes may predispose people to binge eating
but that with counseling and understanding these genetic issues can be
minimized. In addition brain chemistry can be out of balance and may be
contributing to the desire to eat to release the “feel good”
chemicals in the brain. An addiction counselor can assist in references to
neurologists and psychiatrists that can prescribe medications to control these
medical factors.

Parents, want help w/ discipline, meals, addictions, etc.? Join me and Top Parenting Experts on the Planet for free!

posted by sherrygaba

 

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How to discipline your children without ruining their self-esteem?

How to put nutritious meals on the table without it taking up so much time?

How to protect your child from being bullied at school or online?

How to raise your child’s emotional EQ raising happier more resilient children?

How to overcome your own parenting issues so as not to raise children with hang-ups?

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This breakthrough 3- month series begins on Tuesday, September 20th at 9am PT, 10am MT, 11am CT and 12pm ET  so register right now to get more information.

 

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Here are just a few of the other very well-known speakers included on the Great Parenting Show:

 

**Mark Victor Hansen, coauthor of the Chicken Soup for

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**Sonia Choquette, Hay House author who teaches you how to use

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**Marie Diamond, star of The Secret talking about Feng Shui,

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**Shelly Lefkoe, who will be talking about how to get your children

to cooperate WITHOUT destroying their self-esteem

**Robert Holden  Hay House author and frequent Oprah

guest on how to be happy

**Dr. Bruce Lipton, best-selling author who will  talks about the

link between your parenting and your child’s biology and beliefs

**Izzy Kalman, nationally recognized school psychologist on
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And so many more!

 

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Again, this three month weekly training is completely free to you! We’ll be sharing the best of the best strategies, tactics and processes we know to help you with your parenting issues and make the journey happier, and much more successful!

 

I hope you take advantage of this unique chance to have get answers to virtually all parenting issues!

 

Reserve your spot by clicking on this link now:

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After you register, keep an eye out for Jacqueline’s email with

your details for listening in on the calls.

 

 

 

Warm regards,

 

Sherry Gaba, LCSW

 

 

PS If you can’t make the LIVE CALLS Every Tuesday &

Thursday, don’t worry … they’ve got you covered! The interviews will be recorded and will be available after each show for a limited time so you won’t miss a thing.

 

Make sure you sign up now to get these replay recordings.

 

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