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jacknky
7/9/2006 10:06 AM
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Natalie,
It sounds like you are trying to escape the pain of your marriage through an affair. I've done that too. It doesn't work and will only make your situation worse.
What I did was use the affair to get out of a marriage I didn't have the balls to get out of by being honest with my wife (and myself). It would be much better for you to deal with your marriage rather than have an affair (with your minister, of all people). You are not being honest with yourself or looking clearly at your situation.
I also agree with those who say you should report this guy. He is abusing his position with vulnerable women. He needs to be stopped before he harms others.
There is a book that helped me: "When Things Fall Apart" by Pema Chodrin.
Good luck. Remember, be honest with yourself and you'll be able to be honest with others.
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Natalie77
7/13/2006 12:35 PM
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To LordX: We have some major disagreements with a few Christian issues. First of all entrance into Heaven is not based on deeds. It is on accepting Jesus Christ as you personal savior. True, the acts I have refered to seem to contradict getting into Heaven. The Bible also says of Pastors and the like who are not true to the call, to depart from me, I do not know you. We have all sinned and to God I think Sin is Sin.
Thank you for your input you and everyone haved help me much. Thanks Natalie
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sistapower
7/17/2006 8:53 PM
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hi Nat,
Questions he kisses you in a way that makes you feel like you and may have sex. Where is his restraint, his Wife, is he really a Pastor or a lay pastor. Have you been involved like this previously?
I know that there are a lot questions.
you are vulnerable right now. Your husband is a lot of responsibility. Now if he meant you should not have to go through all of that then yes but those are just comfortinig words
Also , remember your vows..FOR BETTER AND FOR WORST IN Sickness and IN Health.
DENY YOUR FLESH!
AND REMIND YOUR "PASTOR" of the SAME
God bless you and your family.
Sista
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kayman1st
12/16/2006 12:14 PM
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Being a pastor and therapist I felt that I needed to weigh in here. The role of pastor is so often a position of power in people's lives that a pastor can never have consensual sex with a member of their congregation. Add to this that he has used a psychologically stressed situation in your life to gain trust so that he has the opportunity to exploit that trust and I see a man who knows exactly what he's doing. His comments of "you shouldn't have to live like that", prove to me that he has been "grooming" you for sex.
Lets be honest here, this pastor doesn't give damn about you. All he wants is the sex. If he truly cared he would have stopped the counselling when he saw that a physical relationship was possible (I have done this numerous times). This man has been placed in a position of trust and power by people and by God and he is abusing both of those. It is also not the first time he has done this. I would submit that this man has no idea who God is, but he needs to meet Him.
Now for the real loser in this situation. Your husband has a devastating disorder that has consumed his life and the one person who should be by his side offering love and support is so wrapped up in herself that she's off getting ready to violate the trust he has placed in her. I wonder what that will do to a person already suffering from depression? Add to that the person she is violating that trust with is also someone he should be able to count on and situation worsens.
Please, stop being selfish. Honor the commitment you made to your husband and report your pastor to those in a position over him. If you want help in this matter feel free to email me at kayman1st@yahoo.com.
My prayers are with you,
Scott
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