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	fivepetals 7/21/2007 2:17 PM	1 out of 29
	Hi I want to ask a question please, How do you know when you are following the right path in life? I ask this as I really don't know what to do for the best at the moment. If any of you have read any of my other posts you will know i am getting divorced ( i dont want to bore you with the details but he put me through a year and a half of mental cruelty due to his so called depression, things hav'nt always been that way, we have been together for 16 years, but i just could not take any more). Anyway to get back to the point, when we first split up he continued his nasty ways and i had no doubt that i was doing the right thing. But, now he's really nice and we are getting on again and he wants us to try again. (If you read my post in past lives you will see that i am convinced we were together in another life.) I just don't know what to do, I have asked my spirit guide and angels for advice, and the reply is always, do not go back, life will be better. All my friends and family tell me the same thing. I have also seen a medium, and yes you've probably guessed, she too said that i was on the right path and not to go back with my husband, ( i didn't tell her anything about my divorce but it all came out in the reading) So, you are probably wondering, why ask us! And you're probably right. But how can i be sure, i have been with this man for 16 years, will life be better without him, or are you better with the devil you know, than the devil you don't. Questions, questions, questions. I Don't want to hurt him, even though he has treated me the way he has, am i just too soft? I've asked the angels to send me signs as confirmation but perhaps i should just wait and see! Any ideas, what signs would the angels send me? Perhaps some of you may have been in a similar situation and could offer me some of your advice, i would be most grateful, Thank you Love and angel blessings Fivepetals xxx

	dovemom 7/21/2007 3:25 PM	2 out of 29
	HI Fivepetals I am sorry about your marriage. Divorce is usually a very hard decision to come by. I know that you want to make the right decision for yourself, so you are exercising all of your options. You mentioned that your husband had been mentally cruel to you because he has depressive issues. Has he ever been treated for his depression? Or, have you tried to get marriage therapy before? No one deserves to be on the receiving end of mental cruelty. Only you have the answer in your heart. You know already what you need to do. To help matters along, write down reasons why you should stay, or why you should leave. This can give you clarity. And yes, prayer to God and your guaridan angels will help too! I know you mentioned going to a psychic for answers, and asking (us), but no one knows more that you do about what decision to make here. I wish you peace, clarity, serenity during this time, and I ask that your angels help you to come to a decision with out doubting it. (been there, done that myself and I know how hard it is).

	fivepetals 7/21/2007 3:50 PM	3 out of 29
	Hi Dovemom, thank you for replying, yes my husband has been for councilling, but im not sure that his behaviour last year was just down to depression. He lied alot, and hid things from me. work rotas, presents from someone at work, credit card statements, all this points to an affair. I asked him many times about this, as i understand that sometimes we do fall out of love with someone and i loved him enough to accept this. But he always said that this was not true, i later found out that he had a "friendship" with a young woman at work and this was the source of his behaviour towards me. Although, he always says that it was just a friendship and nothing else, but after being with someone for 16 years you know when something is wrong. I feel that there was alot more to this "friendship" than he wants to disclose. As for marriage guidance we already did the things they advice you to do, talk etc. We did, and still do talk, but i feel until someone can tell the truth nothing can be resolved. Love and blessings fivepetals xxx

	Lovey-Dovey 7/21/2007 11:01 PM	4 out of 29
	Dear Fivepetals, Yes, I definitely agree with Dovemom's advice. You already know in your heart what you need to do! (Yes, it is hard but you can do it! You are not alone in this!) At least for right now, you need to walk away from him and keep walking....for yourself and by yourself. You will need time to process and figure out lots things which you probably won't be able to do if you stay with him or go back to him too soon. If it's meant to be, then it will be, but later in the future when both of you have learned whatever is it you are supposed to learn from this. One big thing I learned from my divorce (almost 30 years ago) was learning how to let go. It is very important to release the past, especially if you want to move ahead. Think of it as going toward something rather than away from someone. Face your biggest fear and ask your angels directly about it. They will give you an answer and even validations of their answers. I will tell you what mine told me..."You will love and be loved again!" And that was certainly true....I met my second husband and next year we will celebrate our 25th anniversary! (And that is really something, because after my divorce, I had said I would NEVER marry again!! But I did.) Many bounteous blessings to you Fivepetals!

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