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Doohickie
4/21/2005 8:18 AM
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I know an atheist who got married to a woman that later recognized her addiction to alcohol and joined AA. Prior to this, she was not especially spriritual either, but now she is embracing God in her recovery. This is changing the dynamic in their relationship and he is looking for advice in dealing with the issue.
Has anyone else out there experienced something like this? How did you work through it? I will be giving that person a link to this discussion. I don't know if he'll read it or not, but any advice would be appreciated.
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mikeincolorado
4/22/2005 12:35 AM
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Acceptance.
When we met, I was coming to believe, while my wife was violently anti-religous. With the encouragement of my sponsor, I adopted the attitude that I would accept her just as she is. It still works in our house today. Now, she is starting to come to believe, and it changes our relationship. And if you think I enjoy change you're mistaken! But the priciple of acceptance still applies and we continue to grow closer.
Love is acceptance, forgiveness, self-sacrifice and gratitude. I find it isn't too important what she thinks, it is important what I think.
Mike
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balancingact
4/22/2005 10:16 AM
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Love your name - doohickie.
Tell your buddy to hang in there. There is bound to be a time of adjustment for your friends. The most important thing is that she is trying to stay sober and work a recovery program and that's a wonderful thing. Perhaps your friend doesn't know that there is a family program called Al-Anon. You can go to www.al-anon.alateen.org for information on meetings in your area. I have found it to be a lifesaver. Good luck.
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proserpina
4/22/2005 12:58 PM
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I was going to say the same thing as balancingact.
AlAnon can help him.And even though both programs tlak about a higher power, not everyone actually believes in God.
There are atheists in AA and AlAnon.
Secondly, while not the same exact issue, my husband and I have different religious beliefs.
I wish we had something there in common, and we do slightly, but not much.
We have similar beliefs,in a way, but, I also will go to church sometimes, and he will never set foot in one.
That's fine though.That's him.
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