Are You Stuck in a Rut and Can’t Get Up?
“I don’t know what to do.” “I feel stuck.” “I’m in a rut.” Those are words I hear frequently from clients. Life feels stalled. All those big hopes and dreams you once had for yourself seem like they’re on a distant horizon or even in another universe altogether.
I don’t like where I am in life, but I also don’t know
what I want either.
I think about change, but I get stuck in inaction.
I feel excited about a new career direction but
can’t figure out a way to earn a living at it.
I long for a way to make a contribution to my
community but don’t feel I can do it in my present work.
My life feels out of balance. (Too much work and
not enough time for family, social and personal time.)
I’d like to move, but I don’t know where I’d go.
I’m ready to work for myself. (Or, if you’re already an
entrepreneur…) I’m ready to work for someone else.
If you answered “yes” to most of the questions, you’re definitely in a rut.
Begin to think about what’s interesting to you and what you can let go of in order to make room for something new.
Acknowledge it’s time for a change. — You don’t need to give up a job, career or relationship right now as the result of this insight. Just let yourself get used to the idea that you want to change and you’re simply exploring new directions. Consider letting friends and appropriate colleagues know what you’re thinking and feeling. They may see that you possess strengths, skills and interests that you haven’t acknowledged in yourself.
Give yourself a period of information gathering time. — Depending on your situation, this can be a few weeks to a few years. You’re using this time to consult your inner compass, your intuition. Of the possibilities in front of you, what feels exciting? Within your dreams, interests and aspirations you’ll find opportunity. It’s as if your intuition gives you clues about the best path to follow even though your limited logical mind may not know where you’re headed!
Commit to taking action steps. — What are three things you could do this month that would give you information about your interest? Perhaps you could research it on the web, read a book or make an appointment with a career coach. It doesn’t have to be a huge risk. When you commit to action, your intuition can begin to guide you. It puts options, possibility and hope in your path.
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