Inventory your mind. Examine your beliefs and toss out those that no longer serve you. They are often traditions held since childhood. For instance, as the oldest child, for years I mediated disagreements between my siblings. Recently, one sister called to ask me if I would call another sister to request she do something. "I prefer you two work that out," I said. I had outgrown my old belief that as the oldest this was my duty. Two days later my sister called me again to thank me for being honest with her. Not the reaction I expected. But there is no limit to what is possible when we discard old thinking.