This off-balance strategy helps you admit your failure, identify any injustice, and experience sadness, perhaps even guilt, for any role you’ve played in the event. Too many people want to rush past accepting personal responsibility or feeling pain. Instead, confront those things. Tell yourself: 1) I was wrong. 2) I was naive. 3) I betrayed myself by settling for less than I wanted. 4) I ignored the warning signs of this disaster.