You can’t see yourself as you really are (no one can). Or, to say it another way, you won’t realize when you’re truly bent out of shape because you compensate. As long as you have other factors that contribute toward some form of stability, you survive. Or as long as you keep on doing what you’ve been doing for the past five years, part of you claims, I can go on this way. Another part cries out, This is terrible. Let’s make changes and find a better way to live.