Am I looking in the wrong place for the answer? You may think a check is keeping you in place or that you have no other choice. I once asked for a raise and the answer came back: No. I was furious until I heard a voice inside me say: Patrice, your spirit grew because you asked for a raise; and that growth will bring you more money than you would receive if the answer had been Yes. What I needed more than an immediate raise was to recognize my worth and forgive the person who refused to give me a raise because of course, they couldn’t see my worth if I couldn’t see it. The answer was in me, not outside in the office somewhere.