(Or visa versa!) Many of us develop coping mechanisms over the years that inadvertently get us stuck in one mode or another. You may be something of a “yes” man, stuffing your real thoughts and opinions, and doling large pieces of your life away to what others want you to do. On the other hand, you may have fallen into the habit of giving a knee-jerk “no” to every request or invitation: even those which you would have secretly loved to accept. Breaking the habit of automatic responses to others requires two things of you. The first: awareness. Next time you say yes or no to something, ask yourself if what you’re saying truly matches what you really want. If not, you’re ready for the second thing that is required of you: taking a risk. It will feel unnatural at first to do the opposite of what you are used to doing, but that doesn’t mean it’s wrong or bad. Give it a try.