How to Dump Disappointment
One of the most difficult things to contend with in life is disappointment. It’s the reason why we hold back our emotions, why we’re consistently indecisive and why we’re afraid of taking big risks.
BY: Brandi-Ann Uyemura
Maybe you didn’t get the promotion you wanted or the home you dreamed of owning, and right now you’re feeling like every decision you’ve ever made was wrong. You’re not just disappointed with one thing. You’re disappointed with the way you’ve planned out your life.
I’d like you to consider the following. Remember a time when something went exactly the way you planned. Now think of a moment in your life when something wonderful happened (a new love, a friendship, a job opportunity) that you hadn’t expected. Wasn’t the latter an even greater blessing than knowing what to expect? Remind yourself that life isn’t something to be controlled. Just because life isn’t working out the way you want it to, that doesn’t mean it won’t work out in the end.
Something to Try...
Learn to let go of your expectations. Practice the art of acceptance. Drop your attachment to the outcome. Erase the rigid lines that say you need to be married, have a home, be 100% healthy in order to be happy. And be open to the possibility that you will get what you need, but you may not get it right now. Maybe you’re not ready. Maybe the perfect job, person, or place is not ready for you. Maybe getting what you want is less important than receiving what you need in the form of lessons like faith, patience and love. Consider that what feels like disappointment, could end up being the best thing that ever happened to you.
As someone who finally got the dog she’s always wanted since she was a child (a decade after asking for it) and the husband she’s dreamed of as an adult , I know that getting what you want in life isn’t about demanding it to appear. What it does require is patience, faith and an unwillingness to give up on your dreams.
Brandi-Ann Uyemura is a freelance writer who specializes in psychology and self-help articles. She has a MA in Counseling Psychology and writes for several publications and websites.