Listening for the Voice of God
What do I do when I hear God calling me to ministry, but my husband does not?
I have been called to minister the Word of God. However, in my prayer time, I have been told it is not my season to go forward. I know the Lord is transforming my character and integrity, and also developing strength within me. Also, my husband does not accept my calling. He does not feel that the Lord would call me to do something without letting him know in his spirit, if we are one. He also believes that when a person is called, they should be near-perfect and not make many mistakes. I received this calling in 1998 and to this day, I have been told, "not yet, be patient." I would like to know if you know any other women who have encountered this situation, and how they handled it. I feel as though I am walking around on pins and needles because anything I do wrong is judged harshly because I have told him about the calling.
--Not Yet, Be Patient
Dear "Be Patient,"
Yours is as much a question about how to discern the voice of God as it is one about how to make sense of a relationship, which is the usual topic of this column. Come to think about it, both of these dilemmas, listening for God and negotiating romance, require the same set of interior skills. You have to be patient enough to allow God and time to work those things out that are beyond your control, and you have to be prepared to defy convention and trust the prompting of your heart even when you can't explain fully to others where things will end up. It's a process, and you are wise to recognize that.
Sometimes it's difficult to discern the voice of God above the din of opinions coming at you from those you love and trust. Your husband feels that because he's your husband God would (perhaps should?) reveal to him what God is saying to you. I can only suppose that your husband bases his argument on some rather narrow readings of scripture about a husband's authority over his wife. But there are examples in the Bible where messengers of God revealed things to wives (Hannah and Mary, for example) without consulting their husbands. An angel did later appear to Mary's betrothed husband, Joseph, to reassure him that what God was doing in Mary was authentic. But you can bet that it was as much his love for Mary as it was the reassurance of the angel that quieted Joseph's doubts and convinced him to walk with Mary through this special time in her life.
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