Create Your Own 'Love Contract'
Wedding scrolls and other 'spiritually binding' documents are a beautiful way couples can affirm their intentions for marriage.
Your marriage license is the legal document that marks the day you said "I do." Yet there are many other ways the written word can help you celebrate the emotional and spiritual bond of your union, as well map your responsibilities as marriage partners.
In Judaism the contract between husband and wife is called aKetubah
. Quakers have a spiritual document that the whole congregation signs to bless the union of two people who choose to unite as one. Whether you include a document from your religion or culture, or creatively fashion your own, it will be a blessing on your marriage . a blessing that begins when you and your beloved sit down and write your own personal love contract, marriage agreement, or outline of your intentions for married life.
Creating a personal love and marriage contract is a beautiful way to clarify what you both anticipate, and what you would like to experience and create in your marriage. It can include everything from being kind and thoughtful every day, to having children, to building a dream house and growing old together. This is not a prenuptial agreement or a legally binding document; rather, it is a spiritually binding document. Here are a few ideas to get you started.
1. Create a Mission Statement for Your Marriage.
Brainstorm, discuss, process, and bat around ideas until you come up with a marriage mission statement. This is your mutual intention for marriage; it is what you want to be and build together. It can be one sentence or reflect a number of ideas. For example:
Our union gives us strength, power, and fortitude to deal with all of life's ups and downs, and it empowers us to contribute to others and to the world. We are best friends, confidantes, and partners, and we have many close relationships with people we consider "spiritual family." We are a couple who inspire others with our live and who model what it is to be in a great relationship.