Goodbye Bridezilla, Hello Wedding Goddess

Interfaith minister and author Laurie Sue Brockway talks about how to stay sane and soulful while planning your wedding.

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First off, every bride has to realize that there is no such thing as the "perfect wedding" where not one thing goes amiss. The fantasy wedding is, I believe, just that... a fantasy. But your wedding can be perfect, just as it unfolds, if you prepare yourself for the experience and experience it through your spiritual eyes-–which is the opposite of being so stressed about every detail that you begin to lose it.

I am a firm believer that a bride has to include stress management, self-nurturing, and time to chill out as an integral part of her wedding planning process. When you feel the stress building, take time out, go for a walk, slip into a movie, get a massage, go for a manicure, write in a journal, meditate, listen to music, do something un-wedding. You have to love, honor, and cherish yourself if you want to be loved, honored, and cherished by someone else!

What about the opposite: the anti-bride, the not-so-traditional woman who shudders at the thought of a white dress. Where can she find meaning in the whole affair?

The meaning is in the sacredness of your commitment to love, honor, and cherish another human for a lifetime. That's huge. And that is extraordinarily meaningful in itself. The wedding ceremony is just the ritual that establishes and honors the commitment, and makes it legal. And the wedding reception is a way for you to celebrate your commitment with family and friends, to share your joy, and receive their blessings, plus the nice little envelopes they give you to commemorate the occasion. If you are getting married and have decided to plan a wedding, you might as well enjoy it and make it special in your own way. Otherwise, elope.

What is it that brides-to-be should be mindful of in between appointments with the caterer and dress fittings?

Listen to a meditation for brides-to-be
This is about you going from being a single woman with a boyfriend to becoming a married woman with a husband. This is about growing up and growing into the kind of commitment you once only dreamed about. It is about taking two complete and whole individuals with their greatness and their flaws and merging into a partnership that is beyond any union you have ever had in your life. It's about stepping up to the plate to say, "I do," and being ready to step up to the plate in marriage. The details of planning and the sometimes blinding stress that comes along with planning, I think, are often a diversion from the feelings related to this commitment. Fear and occasional panic are not uncommon.


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