Look at what you are expecting of your spouse. Can you see that you expect your partner to make up for what you did not get when you were a child? Can you see that no one could meet your needs the way you want them met? In-between expectations and reality is misery. The only way to lower your misery is to make your expectations realistic and get some help with why you make those unrealistic demands. If your spouse continues to expect the impossible from you, try to talk about your feelings of pressure to fulfill what you can’t. Meet the expectations you can that are realistic. Don’t let your partner’s disappointment infect you. It is their problem, not yours. But work on things in your life that need work and be responsible to implement change where it is needed. And finally if you did a “bait and switch” on your spouse, ask for forgiveness and get help in developing an honest and open relationship. Be sure your expectations don’t become unrealistic also.
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