Father, I know I still care deeply for my husband and our relationship, but lately it seems like we’re growing further apart and that worries me. I wonder if the physical separation for extended periods is starting to take its toll on our marriage. Lately, our conversations have become increasingly harsh and hurtful. It seems like our hearts are becoming so cold and hard. Sometimes I do not recognize my husband as the main I married.

God, please forgive me for seeking revenge and doing things to purposely hurt and punish my husband because he has hurt me. Forgive me for the part that I played in placing undue strain on our marriage. Forgive me for the things I did that were inconsistent with Your Word and the standards that You set for marriage. I thought by doing those things my life would be better and I would feel better about myself. I was wrong.

Lord, please restore my marriage completely. I know it will take time, but I am willing to do whatever it takes to reconcile and to restore my relationship with my husband. Divorce is not an option. Show me what I need to do to get his attention focused on our relationship and on me so that he will at least entertain the idea of restoration and reconciliation. As we start the reconciliation process, facilitate the softening of our hearts by causing us to reflect on the good times in our relationship. Help us to forgive each other for the hurtful things we said and did to each other just as You continually forgive us. Open the doors of communication so that we can talk openly, honestly, and with fear of retaliation. Help my continually speak kindly and reverently to him. Season my speech with salt. You command me to respect my husband. Help me to show him the utmost respect whether I think he deserves it or not. Open my eyes and allow me to continually see my husband as the God-appointed spiritual head over our family.

Father, remove all negative thoughts and conversations concerning our relationship. Remind us that we are to lift each other up not tear each other down. Allow Your peace and joy to reign in our marriage from now on. Continually strengthen our marriage so that it is closer, stronger, and more intimate than ever before. Restore our relationship with love, respect, compassion, mercy, righteousness, and faithfulness. Help us remain committed to each other from this day forward regardless of circumstances. Help us to love each other as You have loved us.

In Jesus’ name, I pray. Amen

Hosea 1-3; John 13-15; Colossians 4:6; Mathew 6:10:16; Ephesians 5:25-27