Dr. Aphrodite Mataskis says: It is a truism that spiritual love is born of sorrow. In going through difficult times together and in facing the sorrows inherent in having been traumatized, you and your survivor can know a closeness that transcends relationships based on superficialities. Your commitment to each other will be real and substantial. Not only in your relationship with your survivor, but in all the parts of your life you will have acquired an invaluable ability: You will have learned how to make positive use of your frustration, fear, anger and pain. In this and in many other ways, you and your survivor will be able to consider yourselves truly victorious.