A mother is wise to create or look for opportunities to have one-to-one time with each individual every few days. A bedtime story, a walk, a dinner together – these provide a chance for the child to ask a difficult question or to vent some painful emotions in the safety of your togetherness. For now, it’s best not to share with hubby what the child has said or expressed – not until some measure of healing has come.

As you have the opportunity to get “up close and personal” with your child, the intimate atmosphere may bring your emotions closer to the surface – which is great if you don’t allow it to go too far. It is important to communicate your heart in an honest and open fashion, but it’s also important to balance that with conveying your emotional stability to your child by remaining calm.