One of the most troubling aspects of experiencing any sort of trauma is the loss of control. When your husband’s Combat Trauma symptoms are dominating the home, everyone else is giving up some of their territory to accommodate him. The unfairness of this isn’t lost on the children. Think of ways that will put some power back in their hands.

·         Let them make decisions about clothes they wear, meals, desserts, family outings, chores, bedtimes (within reason).

·         Give them greater responsibilities around the house. Ask them to help prepare dinner, help with yard work or even home repair. Help them see that by doing more they’re helping you, helping their father and helping each other. Add the incentive of an increased allowance commensurate with their increased responsibilities.

·         Encourage them to get involved in service projects in their community or with their church. As they are able to give their time and energies to others, they’ll feel better about themselves, and it will take their focus off their difficulties.