In Jewish tradition, the Kaddish is traditionally recited by mourners who stand up in the midst of the congregation so that the rest of the community can recognize someone who needs support. Most military wives, however, quickly absorb the message to never stand out in a crowd—even in a crisis. And though many of these military wives really are as stoic as their husbands, keeping a stiff upper lip isn’t the answer for everyone. There were times during my husband’s deployment that I cried in the gym, the grocery store, and my daughter’s dance class. Inevitably, someone reached out to me, and talking through the issues helped me feel better.