Develop the life infrastructure necessary to sustain success . “We’ve all experienced painful growth moments,” writes Smith. “I think of times when I came to sobering realizations that there would be some major repercussions if I didn’t change in some way, grow in some area, or develop some part of my character more fully. I knew that even God-inspired dreams for my life, my family, and the church I served would never be fulfilled if I didn’t grow. I can remember as a very young man becoming aware that other people viewed me as talented yet cocky. A deep recognition of my need to humble myself before God became a central focus in my life. I remember another time when I came to understand that as a leader and as a husband I desperately needed to learn what it meant to be a servant.