People will often try to find a reason for their pain, so they can somehow avoid it in the future. Unfortunately, there is no avoiding this kind of pain. We will lose those we love, or those we love will lose us. The only people that avoid it are those that never love, which is an even worse fate. The best we can do is to learn how to get through it.

Matthew 5:4 “Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.”