Pursuing Your Passion: Mindfully
Learning how to pursue your passion without the person you love can be a challenge.
The doctor calling in to National Public Radio’s Car Talk in Washington D.C. had a particular problem; he loved to idle his way to work and back through rush-hour traffic with a good cigar.
His issue was not that Cuban cigars are illegal in the United States; he makes do with an American or Italian. Nor that he was a doctor who smokes, “everything in moderation,” he explained, but his wife would occasionally get into the car and complain about the smell. Yes, she had her own car, but she’d get into his.
It was a problem that taxed him and the male co-hosts of the show. No one suggested that he give up cigars. But there was lots of considered thought as to what should be done about the wife.
Learning how to pursue your passion without the person you love losing their passion for you, can be a challenge. For some cigar connoisseurs the way to marital bliss has been to smoke among friends in special smoking lounges or clubs.
But even foodies face challenges. What surprises the gourmet is that what you love someone in the family is going to hate. It’s either too smelly (gorgonzola, Stilton, cigars), expensive (champagne, whisky, brandy), fattening (Brie, pates, sausages) or not yucky looking (brains, oysters, frogs legs).
If you’re a determined gourmet you’ll know how to polish off haggis (heart, liver and lungs mixed with oatmeal, suet, and onions) with a great Scotch all the while quote Robbie Burns:
Then catch the moments as they fly,
And use them as ye ought, man:
Believe me, happiness is shy,
And comes not aye when sought, man.
Or if you know how to tango, you should know how to combine morcilla (pork blood sausage) with a perfect merlot (wine).
Are you already reeling from this page in disgust? Do these gourmet treats make you head for the nearest take-out?
Pause and consider this: loving good food and wine demands an interest in other peoples and their cultures. It tells a lot about history and legend as this example shows; tortellini the famous Italian ring of pasta was created, Italian lore tells us, when a pasta maker stared through a keyhole and saw the navel of Venus and so he created a pasta to honor her perfect belly-button.
Eating the foods of different cultures tells us too about literature and dance, romance – I bet you have a favorite romantic restaurant - and a love of travel.
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