Do You Know What it Means to Love Yourself?
Find out how to love yourself more and why you should strive for it.
BY: Bob Livingstone LCSW
It is echoed continually in our culture. You see it television and hear it on the radio. You read about it on the internet and in print media. They all shout from the roof tops that in order for you to attain a complete and fulfilling life, you must learn to love yourself. In order for you to love someone else, you must learn to love yourself first.
What exactly does this phrase mean and how do you accomplish it? You hear it at recovery meetings and other self-help groups. This expression seems to have lost its message. Does loving yourself mean becoming self-centered and conceited? Does it mean that you pursue your goals no matter who gets hurt along your journey? Does loving yourself have anything to do with the acquisition of material items? How do you know if you are in the state of loving yourself or not? Do you feel euphoric when you love yourself? Do you have the combined strength of superman and superwoman?
None of this really accurately describes what it is and what it means to love yourself. It is not experienced like a 24/7 drug rush that never lets you down. You have moments when you are down even when you do love yourself. The length of time you are in a state of despair can be greatly diminished if you love yourself, but it won’t totally go away.
You will also find time to harshly judge your actions and character if you love yourself, but you will find reasons to put an end to this self-hatred talk quickly. If you have experienced self-hatred, you can certainly live in a world of self love. If you know how to tear yourself down, you can learn how to build yourself up. Matter of fact, those of us who have experienced the depths of self-hatred can really learn to appreciate the positivity of self-love.