Creating Memories of a Brief Life

It's no longer considered 'dysfunctional' to mourn an infant's death.

BY: Amy Kuebelbeck

 
Excerpted from "Waiting with Gabriel: A Story of Cherishing a Baby's Brief Life" (Loyola Press).

Like those who sought to reclaim respect for childbirth as a natural process rather than as a medical procedure, some people are now attempting to do the same with death. A nascent "dying well" movement is emphasizing dignity, hospice care, better pain management, and other approaches that allow for the profound spiritual and emotional growth that can happen at the end of life-both for the person who is dying and for the ones left behind.



Similarly, we are now also on the cusp of a significant cultural shift regarding infant death.

Parents are beginning to be encouraged to cherish and honor their children in tangible ways, and they are finally being allowed to grieve. Driven by the persistent efforts of bereaved parents, who began actively seeking reform in the 1970s, many hospitals have adopted more sensitive practices and offer support groups and professional counselors for parents who experience miscarriage and infant death. Efforts also are under way to improve care for parents who experience losses earlier in pregnancy; for example, some parents are lobbying for hospitals to provide options other than routine incineration for disposing of babies' remains. Several national organizations now exist, including the National SHARE Pregnancy and Infant Loss Support Inc., founded in 1977 by Sister Jane Marie Lamb, O.S.F., and now based in St. Charles, Missouri. The Compassionate Friends group exists for parents who have lost a child of any age.

Inspired by Richard Paul Evans's best-selling book

The Christmas Box

, about a fictional woman mourning at the angel monument that marks her young daughter's grave, communities around the globe are erecting angel statues as memorials to babies who have died. Memorial sites like these are giving parents-especially those who do not have a gravesite to visit-a physical place to grieve. Even parents whose babies died many years ago are seeking out these memorials for solace, grateful that after so much time someone is finally acknowledging their loss and their sorrow.

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