Tisha B'Av: The Oldest Story in the Book
Can Jews turn Tisha B'Av, a day of mourning, into a time for healing?
BY: Rabbi Jennifer Krause
According to the song by Three Dog Night, "one" is the loneliest number, and if you ask Ole Blue Eyes, Saturday night is the loneliest night of the week. Well, the saddest day on the Jewish calendar is Tisha B'Av. The thing is, most Jews don't know Tisha B'Av exists. Maybe it's because it falls during the dog days of summer when most folks are on vacation, or perhaps because it lacks the luster of the "marquis" holidays, like Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur, around the corner. Or it could be that Tisha b'Av hearkens back to painful moments in a time so distant, they don't capture the hearts of the post-modern Jew.
Tisha B'Av-literally the 9th day of the Hebrew month of Av-is a day of mourning. According to Jewish tradition, the 9th of Av recalls the Babylonian destruction of the First Temple in Jerusalem in 586 B.C.E., the destruction of the Second Temple by the Romans in 70 C.E., as well as a number of other tragedies, such as the expulsion of the Jews from Spain in 1492. While far less known, Tisha B'Av is similar to Yom Kippur in many of its observances: a full fast, no sex, and no creature comforts, like bathing or wearing leather shoes. It is a day for reflection, time out of time to help us see to the heart of things.
But who needs a special day to think about destruction when it's everywhere all the time? We live in a "been there, done that" kind of a world-one giant, wall-to-wall flat-screen filled with 24/7 violence to humanity of the real and fictional kind. Five more soldiers killed in a suicide bombing take their last march across a CNN crawl, while images of Darfur, hazy home video from Al-Qaeda, and the hopeful picture of another missing child flash by as we make coffee or brush our teeth.
Attached to so many dates of infamy in Jewish history, Tisha B'Av could stand as a "been-there-done-that" holiday, a symbol of our 21st-cen. world in which we are de-sensitized to chaos and devastation. Or Tisha B'Av can be the day we stop to reconsider the same old story we accept as time goes by: hatred, conflict, and destruction are facts of life.
Perhaps this is what the Talmudic rabbis had in mind when they put hatred in the spotlight while discussing Tisha B'Av. Not hatred against the Jews, mind you, but hatred within the Jewish community itself. The rabbis pinned the destruction of the Second Temple, the community's holiest place, on the rampant antipathy that raged among so-called kindred spirits. It didn't matter that they were a generation well-versed in the Bible, nor that they upheld its precepts; their failure to neutralize hatred put them in exile. The tragedy of exile is that you do not die, but have to live each day in a condition of homelessness.