Ramadan and the Single Girl

Fasting as a single woman, perhaps I will reach its truer meaning--sympathy for those who are hungry, hurting, and alone.

Dee7

08/30/2010 09:06:37 PM

Well-done you! I hear you; I'm a single Gen M girl of 31. I'm white so I guess colour has nothing to do with being single nor does education or wealth. Muslim women now face many challenges, finding men who are both spiritual, achieved, learned as well as open-minded... The main culprit in my case was and still is finding a man who embraces the true meaning of Islam leaving behind all misconceptions and fallacies caused by lack of the true understanding of God's words and cultural barriers. I think we should do something about it, taking the initiative and being proactive is key. I used to think that it's wrong for a woman to approach a man or the Imam for that matter addressing that she's single and in need of an equal. The mosque, the Imam and our Muslim communities should seize the initiative, help youngster mingle as in Speed dating or other volunteer work, workshops to increase the chances of meeting and getting to know Muslims. It's not easy finding a lifetime partner, one that believes in the same God as you, Allah. At least then we can say that we've tried and it's all in His gracious hands. There's One for Everyone. Allah is Kareem, most generous, most merciful. I agree Ramadan is about suffering, and remembering those in need. Put up with the rain to see the rainbow. Ramadan Mubark

shx2

11/01/2004 04:59:58 PM

my question to her would be that since she mentions that according to her cultural traditions, she should've been married 10 years ago, so did she have any real prospects for marriage in the past 10 years? and did she just reject them out of her desire for education/career? i myslef got married almost 3 years ago, at the age of 19 and Alhamadulilah with the support and encourgemsnt of my husband and both our families i am almost done my BA and plan to apply for a teaching license inshAllah. but i know that not everyone is lucky enough to have a husband who supports higher education. regardless of your religious or cultural background however, research has found that men in general favor younger women as marriage prospects. so please dont wait till you're 30 if u can to look for a marriage partner as it gets more idfficult past 25 (as i am told by my single friends).

Libejin

06/06/2004 03:21:35 PM

My problem is not so unique; but still a problem. I am Muslim, but I was raised by Christians and have no sense of tratidion. So the Muslim men I am attracted to get upset because I appear immodest even though that by American standards, I am very shy, frumpy and over-dressed. I've put it in Gods hands.

Numah_04

05/25/2004 12:02:46 PM

If you are a black Muslimah, you can pretty much hang it up.

Numah_04

05/25/2004 12:01:21 PM

For those single Muslimah's out there, if you are not a white convert or a white women willing to convert, you should expect that you will have a tough time finding a husband. Many Muslim men prefer marrying white women. Whether that woman is Muslim or not isn't as important as whether or not she is white. Many Muslim men want to marry white Western women, then force them to convert.

modestly14

01/06/2004 06:56:20 PM

continued... These ayahs sum it up. It mentions both the war you talk of and the peace in this religion that I believe in. Islam ONLY allows for war when there is no other possibility. If the other side wishes for peace, a Muslim may not fight. Also, as the next ayah shows, you can only fight as much as is needed. 2:190 fight in the cause of Allah those who fight you, but do not transgress limits; for Allah loveth not transgressors. 2:193 And fight them on until there is no more Tumult or oppression, and there prevail justice and faith in Allah. but if they cease, Let there be no hostility except to those who practice oppression. 6:54 When those come to thee who believe in Our signs, Say: "Peace be on you: Your Lord hath inscribed for Himself (the rule of) mercy: verily, if any of you did evil in ignorance, and thereafter repented, and amend (his conduct), lo! He is Oft- forgiving, Most Merciful. I leave you with peace.

modestly14

01/06/2004 06:55:48 PM

“Islam is a threat...by itself it is an extreme, violent and totalitarian faith system” Salaam Alaikum (I wish you peace) In Islam, this is how we are to greet one another, by wishing them peace. A simple act such as this goes a long way to show how non-violent Islam really is. Here are a few ayahs in the Holy Quran. 4:90 Except those who join a group between whom and you there is a treaty (of Peace), or those who approach you with hearts restraining them from fighting you as well as fighting their own people. If Allah had pleased, He could have given them power over you, and they would have fought you: Therefore if they withdraw from you but fight you not, and (instead) send you (Guarantees of) Peace, then Allah Hath opened no way for you (to war against them) 8:61 But if the enemy incline towards Peace, do thou (also) incline towards Peace, and trust in Allah. For He is One that heareth and knoweth (all things). continued...

Norm_uk

11/27/2003 12:02:17 AM

Andy, who made you defender of Islam? Why are you so concerned? Do you understand Arabic? Islam is a threat...by itself it is an extreme, violent and totalitarian faith system. Now, I know most Muslims I meet are not this way but like New Testament Anti-Semtism it is always there ready for some idiot to take literally and start killing people. To be frank andy, I don't appreciate having my character slandered by being called hate filled and vile...nor do I appreciate your accussation that I live in a 'narrow and hate filled world'. I would be careful about slandering my character based on a few lines I typed about Islam...why not counter claim my comments with quotes from the Koran and Hadith. Yallah

Norm_uk

11/26/2003 11:49:45 PM

"Muslims, unlike liberal Christians like yourself don't critisize their god" First Andy, please don't generalise and then say my own generalising is bad. I am not a Christian and hold no Christian belief....and my frequent dialogue with Muslims (I work in the Middle East) reveals that many DO critisize other religions... "No, there is no such thing for a Muslim as Islam and individual Muslims"....their problem, not mine. If people have to use a Dark Age faith a crutch for their own identity and won't take constructive comments but expect everyone to make allowances for their faith in all areas of life I reserve the right to make comments.

andy_f_90

11/26/2003 03:07:47 PM

Btw, I love this article by Ms. Hasan. It really illustrates the essence of Ramadan and Islam. Thanks.

andy_f_90

11/26/2003 03:05:21 PM

>>5 Billion people are waiting to be killed or converted. See Norm_UK, your vile and disgusting hatred against Islam and Muslim is clearly visible in your statement above. In your narrow and hate-filled world, you view the faith of Islam as a threat. Your insecurity leads you to write such Islamophobic comments. The problem is you find some verse in the Qur'an and take it out of context to prove your anti-Islamic point. Therefore I fear it's not the 5 billion people awaiting conversion, it's the 1 billion Muslims awaiting more radicals, Islamophobes like yourself whose thinking is no different than that of bin Laden's.

andy_f_90

11/26/2003 02:48:45 PM

Norm_uk Muslims, unlike liberal Christians like yourself don't critisize their god, prophet or religion; otherwise they won't be a "muslim." The very definition of a Muslim is one who is obedient and submissive to the commands of Allah (God) and his Prophet. So if a "Muslim" were to critisize their God, prophet, or religion, then by the very definition of the word they are not Muslim. >>I am only commenting on Islam....not on individual Muslims. No, there is no such thing for a Muslim as Islam and individual Muslims. Muslims find their identity through Islam and to denigrate and insult the latter is a flagrant insult to the former. So it's not alright to whitewash the antagonism towards Islam by claiming one is not anti-Muslim. I just don't buy that!

Norm_uk

11/26/2003 09:09:39 AM

"If I, as a Muslim, were to approach my PC and level blanket accusations..." I am only commenting on Islam....not on individual Muslims. It's just a shame that no one is allowed to quote from the Koran for fear of exposing what it says about non-Muslims and women. Of course, we may quote from the bible until we are blue in the face if it will make Christians and Jews look stupid but not the Koran....perhaps because the Koran tells us that to criticise Islam, Allah or Mohammed is punishable by death...

Norm_uk

11/26/2003 09:07:05 AM

"Does the Qur'an not say that it confirms the Gospel, well known for its message of peace and brotherly love?" The Quran might say that it does confirm the Gospels but Muslims accuse Christians of changing the Gospels so we do not know what the Gospels truly say. In any case I do not hold the gospels to be volumes of universal truth...if read they exclude everyone except believers in Christ....so Muslims are condemned under this message of 'love and peace' "Have you not read the early surahs which provide the foundation of the Qur'an and the basis for faith?" I am surprised you do not realise as a Muslim that the Prophet's early revelations are to be ignored in light of later 'truths' - is that not an axiom of Islamic scholarship universally?

mohammed.mussulman

11/24/2003 04:08:28 PM

Bismillâh. Hi Lady Katherine, Yes, there is a lot of oppression that has found its way into some Islamic cultures. These practices are entirely cultural and have nothing to do with Islam. The family structure is traditional, that much is true, with the man being the head of the family. That is not to say that women don't get their say in family matters - they most certainly do. Nor does that mean that a man's soul is dearer to God than the woman's. In my mosque, there are a lot of American women that chosen Islam freely as their religion. Many of the women (American and otherwise) are very active in daawah activities (inviting others to Islam). If you want to read the truth of the matter of the role of women in Islam, I recommend reading any one of the women's issues books you can obtain from http://www.islamicmedia.com - many of the books themselves were written by women and address many misconceptions, both on the part of non-muslims and muslims themselves. Peace be with you.

Lady_Katherine

11/24/2003 01:24:35 PM

I agree with Norm_UK that women in Islam seem oppressed. It discourages me. As if women are passive creatures to be patronized! I apologize if I offend here. But it seems as if the Muslim women I know are not comfortable to be independent and self-sufficient. However... Norm should not have attacked Muslims, I agree with that.

mohammed.mussulman

11/24/2003 08:24:41 AM

Bismillâh. What is the matter with people who, when they wake up in the moring, forget to put on their good manners and civility? If I, as a Muslim, were to approach my PC and level blanket accusations and assaults, pick and choose from other scriptures as I saw fit and waive them in the face of non-Muslims, what would the reaction be? No doubt I would be called "intolerant", "a fanatic", and "a typical Muslim".

mohammed.mussulman

11/24/2003 08:24:33 AM

con't So when I see non-Muslims doing this, what is my reaction to be? I could repay in kind, the kind of reaction I would get and say, "well, that's a kâfir for you. So rude, so uncivilized." In fact, I do not. Or at least I hope not. As a Muslim, I am an embassador for Islam. I am an example, and I pray that I become a good one. There is a hadith that talks of a man who had no good deeds to his credit except for that when he would send his servants out to collect debts from those who owed him, he would say, "And tell them if they don't have the money then they don't have to worry about it." The conclusion to the parable is that when he died, God forgave him of all his debts. Why? Because the man was willing to forgive the debts of those who owed him, and nobody is more capable of forgiving than God. So my advice to those of you out there, approach personal injustices with forgiveness. It will be better for you.

mohammed.mussulman

11/24/2003 07:51:08 AM

Norm_UK, Having followed several of your posts in various threads, why is it that on a site designed for interfaith dialog and peace and tolerance that your posts seem to be increasing in vitriol? Why are you here? Does the Qur'an not say that it confirms the Gospel, well known for its message of peace and brotherly love? Have you not read the early surahs which provide the foundation of the Qur'an and the basis for faith? What is the matter with you? I wish for you and yours peace and guidence. For whomever God chooses guidence, no one may lead astray. Worship none other than God alone and remember the promise of a coming day.

mohammed.mussulman

11/24/2003 06:59:55 AM

Bismillâh. Hi Norm_UK, Are you sure that you are taking these verses in the proper context? Are you aware of the exact translation of the word "waliy" (commonly translated as "friend" in English)? Have you taken into consideration the verses that balance those statements found elsewhere in the Qur'ân? I wish you and yours peace and guidence.

Norm_uk

11/22/2003 01:39:44 AM

Do you have non-Muslim friends? Well you shouldn't according to Sura's like 3:118, 5:51, 4:114 etc. In fact, if you believe truly you are called to fight non-believers as per Suras 9:123, 4:89, 4:56, 9:05, 8:12 , 47:4 etc. 5 Billion people are waiting to be killed or converted.

Norm_uk

11/22/2003 01:34:13 AM

"Men are in charge of women, because Allah hath made the one of them to excel the other, and because they spend of their property (for the support of women). So good women are the obedient, guarding in secret that which Allah hath guarded. As for those from whom ye fear rebellion, admonish them and banish them to beds apart, and scourge them. Then if they obey you, seek not a way against them. Lo! Allah is ever High, Exalted, Great" - The Noble Koran, 4:34 Sura al-Baqarah 2:223 Your women are a tilth for you (to cultivate) so go to your tilth as ye will, and send (good deeds) before you for your souls, and fear Allah, and know that ye will (one day) meet Him. Give glad tidings to believers, (O Muhammad)

monotheist

11/22/2003 12:23:17 AM

Jazakallah Andy. :) One thing I forgot to add is that we did things pretty much "Islamically." We didn't date per se...although we met in person a few times before deciding to get married. As somebody who did the whole dating thing prior to becoming a Muslim... it was a bit strange... but with prayer... it seemed right. It's tough to explain.. but trusting God...and going into the whole process with the intention of marriage... made all of the difference.

andy_f_90

11/20/2003 03:04:48 AM

Hey Monothesit, May Allah swt bless you in your 1st anniversary and may you and your husband live in happiness. May he also protect both of you and use you to be an ambassador for his deen. Ameen.

monotheist

11/19/2003 01:47:43 PM

Hi Tuwanda: There may be hadith regarding this as well, but here's some Qur'an... 2:221 "...nor marry your daughters to unbelievers until they believe..." -or- 16:72 "And God has made for you mates (and companions) of your own nature..." 42:11 "...He has made for you pairs from among yourselves..."

monotheist

11/19/2003 01:30:59 PM

Salamz.. Just thought I'd give some hope to all you single Muslim gals out there. I got married last December to a very cool, nice Muslim man who is actually younger than me! (Rare in the Muslim community...even with Prophet Muhammad and Kadijah :) ) So there is hope! We met online at one of the matrimonial sites...and Alahmadullilah things have worked out quite well. He's a physician... I have an MBA. We both like eurodance music and classic films. We're approaching our 1 year anniversary. Ramadan Mubarak!

tuwanda

11/18/2003 01:24:36 PM

This has been an interesting topic. As a single Muslim woman, my Iftaars have been nice. I have attended Masjid gatherings. In my city, there are several Mosques that offer Iftaars. Can someone reference in the Quran where it states that a Muslim woman is forbidden to marry a non-Muslim? I am reading the Quran where is states that Muslims are to respect all of the religious books and Prophets. What happens to the Muslim women that can not find a suitable Muslim mate. Should she stay single forever?

Norm_uk

11/18/2003 12:12:19 AM

If Islam forbids sexism, why then are only women forbidden from marrying non-Muslims? Why are only women commanded to wear veils? I Islam is as sexist as Christianity and Judaism if not more so. It may 'protect' women, but it does so by assuming women have no voice, no education and no will of their own. I am sure a muslim woman who married a non-muslim would be more than capable of raising the children as Muslims if she and her partner wanted that. Looking from the outside it looks like control to me. Many muslim women are only muslims because they are raised Muslims and have nothing of their own to claim except an old arabian religion, right or wrong.

NakiaJ

11/17/2003 01:14:16 PM

Under Islamic law, Muslim husbands are required to respect the faith of their wives, whether they be Muslim, Christian, or Jew. There is no equivalent law in the other Abrahamic faiths, so a Muslim woman who married a non-Muslim man would be forfeiting her right to retain her faith, and to have her children raised as Muslims. Sounds like a raw deal to me. Muslim men may not marry polytheists, but this practice stems from people unwilling to challenge a man's prerogative in a sexist society. Please be mindul that Islam forbids sexism, and if sexism exists, that it is the result of a society ignoring Islamic laws.

MusaIsaMuhammad

11/17/2003 11:10:52 AM

Good luck on your search for happines. May Allah watch over you at all times. Open your heart with kindness. You have one life...Enjoy

Norm_uk

11/17/2003 12:12:12 AM

I work in a middle eastern Islamic society and can confirm that it is actually illigal for a muslim woman to marry anyone but a muslim man. Muslim men may however, marry anyone except those whose religions involve polytheism such as Hindus or Buddists. It belittles women to tell them they may only marry muslim men when not a few muslim people (male and female) reject their parents teachings and wish to be part of another faith (or no faith in some cases) but are not free to marry outside because of the law. I know both Christians and Jews are encouraged to marry other members of their faith but they often do and for most of them it does not involve a prison sentance as it would in several Islamic states.

NakiaJ

11/14/2003 06:43:07 PM

To elaborate on the previous suggestion, organizing community iftars would be a great way to make sure one has better company than Alex Trebek, and provides a wonderful service to poor students far from home, or overworked young mothers.You also get to sample cuisine from around the world for free if you live in a diverse community. It's not easy being a young single Muslim, but lighting a single candle is far better than cursing the darkness.

cjacks

11/10/2003 07:21:49 PM

Might I suggest that the author get a copy of a book titled “deliberate acts of kindness” and then spend some time breaking fast as a volunteer at a soup kitchen, homeless shelter or other place where those who experience fasting involuntarily can appreciate her effort and give her companionship in turn. Look for working mother families with which to create support, or a battered woman’s shelter. These may be more fulfilling than Alex Trebek and they would certainly appreciate the home cooked, love filled meals her grandmother (and she) could create. With twice as many Muslim women as men in the US, and with Muslim women hesitant to go to Masjid, unaccompanied outreach to the less fortunate will return many benefits that can not be expressed.

NakiaJ

11/10/2003 01:50:31 PM

A marriage between a Muslim woman and a non- Muslim man is generally not accepted as religously valid. Even among Muslim men, who can marry Jewish or Christian women, a Muslim bride is most desired. Marriage is not simply about satisfying one's physical and emotional desires. It is also about beginning a family, and raising children to become productive members of society. For Muslims, this must include children receiving an Islamic education. Many ex- spouses have gone into a marriage with incompatible familial goals in mind, and to ignore this issue would be folly,

h5070

11/10/2003 11:35:27 AM

With all respect I would like to ask readers if it is so important for Mulims to marry one of their own faith. I know Muslims who have married Christians and wondered if it was accepted. The writer sounds so sad, perhaps she could broaden her horizons without losing her faith.

ThePunisher

11/08/2003 09:31:06 PM

Would she like some cheese with her whine? Life can get much worse than what she is experiencing.

al_assad

11/06/2003 02:24:11 PM

andy the authur of the article makes that statement she states that in the US there are two muslim girls for every muslim boy. personaly i find that flys in the face of my experience, which would have those numbers reversed, but read the article's 4th paragraph

andy_f_90

11/06/2003 12:39:54 AM

Mr. Assad, Where do women out number men 2 to 1? They are more than men by 2-5 % points in the US but definitely not by a margin of 2 to 1.

john073052

11/02/2003 11:53:49 AM

Yes, we benefit by being grateful we are not hungry, hurting, and alone. Perhaps by helping those who are hungry, hurting, and alone we shall find ourselves not hurting and alone.

al_assad

10/31/2003 04:44:42 AM

women out number men two to one, guess i will have to take two wives :)

Tonjohwy

10/30/2003 11:14:39 PM

The author makes it very plain that she would like to have a family, but that meeting someone who is compatible in more ways than religion have greater value to her than her social status in the Islamic community. She cannot find a way to integrate the values of her roots in Islam to the society in which she now lives. This same problem, less the religious aspect applies to divorcees, career women and others who, for some reason, refuse to play the meat-market style of dating or just sleep around until they find Mr. Right who may not be all one has been led to believe. Read the story for what it is, finding a compatible mate in today's culture and the difficulty involved while maintaining one's personal needs and beliefs.

Tonjohwy

10/30/2003 11:02:21 PM

One could assume by some comments made, that an arranged marriage would end her feelings of loss, yet it is obvious that the author is not going to take someone she does not know and/or love just to try and bring back the memories of her youth.How many of you would like to have your parents pick your spouse for you? Be honest when you think of your answer. One can easily see that she has no use for a man who requests that his priority for a wife is her wearing a hajib? Would you consider a demand that you get breast implants make you wonder about the depth of his devotion? (cont)

Tonjohwy

10/30/2003 10:51:00 PM

It amazes me more and more to read replies to an article that suddenly have a "secret or racist" implication given to the author of said article. No where did I find the term "white revert" used in the article as used in some of the comments. The reflections of a childhood memory and a way of life that she knew is used to reference her current conflict with those memories and the reality of now only serves to illustrate what many people who have immigrated to the U.S.,i.e. things are different here than in Pakistan where she spent her early childhood. (cont.)

YahyaBergum

10/30/2003 09:36:45 PM

Assalamu alaikum. I ask that you forgive me but even during Ramadan I would object to the suggestion that a "US revert" would also have to be a white revert. If we are talking about the same [submission] I did not even find the word "white" anywhere in the sister's message. Again, I ask that you forgive me for presenting you this argument during Ramadan. Also, Jazak Allah - for the insight on the "white trophy" thing. Until now, it was something that I hadn't quite perceived. May the month of Ramadan be blessed for you.

qtp3

10/30/2003 04:24:26 PM

tfkarim What's with the 'white revert' comments? Are u Muslim? If you are then u should know better about calling out people race and a comment like "white revert". Don't reject what ALLAH ordained. Welcome your "white" Muslim Brother & Sisters and all from non traditional islamic backrounds.Alhumdulilah I am a Muslim who was Born Puerto Rican. And it is true that there are racial issues pertaining to marriages among misguided Muslims. its not the norm. Its true that the writer did not represent a best example of a Muslimah during Ramadan. Its celebrated and joyful, but i think people are commenting on her attitude of negativity.

tfkarim

10/30/2003 11:24:59 AM

Jojocat, Ms. Hasan may be, in your words "whiny and unsociable", however unlike you, she is gaining a sense of sympathy and compassion. Nowhere in her article did she suggest that the ISNA crowd was not good enough for her--merely that she has not found a suitable partner going that route. Nowhere in the article did she mention that the only men she would consider are drop dead georgeous multi-billionaires. Racisim in the marriage market is practiced far more by men in our community than women. But you, like many white reverts are too blinded by being a part of a privileged class to understand such things. And god, why do you white reverts feel a need to drag the western "mommy wars" into our community? Just becasue early marriage was a good choice for you does not mean that it is a good choice for intelligent women who want to use their god-given intellect for some greater good.

jojocat

10/30/2003 07:55:00 AM

Wow, no wonder this chick is single and doesn't have any friends. Who could listen to this pity party all day? Another disappointment for me, a US revert, to discover that more & more Muslims are shallow and not spiritual. As for being single, maybe those guys she's belittling at ISNA are too good for HER-- did she ever think about that? Not to mention, many woman who marry early are making the sacrifice not to have a career, so why should she have both automatically? I gave up a career in order to complete 1/2 of my faith, and take this time in my 20s to learn and grow.I have a great husband because of that (young, too!).I've also noticed a lot of racism and many people like this complain about not having guys falling at their feet, yet many "Muslims" are so racist as to not consider whole groups of men due to their race, income, tribe, etc. (And, hello, no one is making you eat burnt toast because you're single! Sounds more like sour grapes!)

YahyaBergum

10/30/2003 01:57:09 AM

Salam! The married brothers at the mosque are forever trying to encourage the unmarried brothers to take the plunge - as I myself have encouraged them to do. Surely, there is a vast amount that I simply don't understand about how things work in the old country but - here is comes - what's to prevent a single woman from simply emailing the imam at the local mosque? Are we indeed not benefiting from a form of "screen" at this very moment? And what imam would not take "half of Islam" seriously? Certainly none I have ever heard about. Ramadan Muburak! Also: Assalamu alaikum dunner99. Masha'Allah!

desigirl

10/29/2003 09:53:00 AM

Tuwanda, You are right--single muslim women are treated at worst with suspicion or hostility, and at best with pity by members of the community. That is why many of us avoid gatherings and prefer to break fast by ourselves or our families if they are available. So is that why married women at the mosque act like icy bithces around me? Because they are scared that I will take away their spouse or a prospective spouse for their daughter? Hmmmm I have never thought of that before!

tuwanda

10/29/2003 08:26:25 AM

Peace and Blessings. I think that the previous comments have been harsh to Asma. She is basically expressing a concern that many Muslim women have about finding mates in America. She is also comparing her experience in Ramadan with her Mother's experience. As a single Muslim sister, she is stating that she would prefer to have Iftaar with a mate and share the religious experience with a Muslim Man. Marriage is half our religion. Therefore, those that are single do feel isolated. Sometimes single sisters are not invited to Iftaars by other women. There is competition for the few brothers that are marriageable. And the married ones do not want their husbands to be tempted by polygyny. Therefore, a single sister's invitation sometimes gets lost in the mail.

farooq85

10/29/2003 07:39:53 AM

being single has no releation with celebrating events.. the thoughts of this lady r nothing but inspired by stupid hindu belifsz where a single/divorced woman does not celebrate certain religios event with joy.. i would recommend here to go out.. make some friends.. hang out and get a life.. if u cant make friend.. dont blame it on other things the article was whole lot of nonsense!!

f10c

10/28/2003 08:48:14 PM

I think this woman is depressed. I mean really she has no friends, even non-Muslim friend, who she can go out to dinner with at iftar time? Please! The article basically says that a Muslims woman is nothing is she is ot married, how does the article even make a connection between marriage and being alone at Ramadan. Make some friends lady!

michele57a

10/28/2003 08:19:35 PM

As a Christian woman who is learning more about Islam, I must say I was under the apparent mistaken impression that there were no unmarried Muslims who would be celebrating any of the religious holidays so very much alone. I assumed every mosque across America took all the singles who would be away from family under their wings for dinners, companionship, and to help make matches. I think we singles who are on our own,away from roots and relatives,who seek religious connection and meaning, and want to find good mates all have more in common than not!

qtp3

10/28/2003 04:40:34 PM

The sister sounds pretty depressed, When as Long as you have ALLAH, you are never alone. Especially during the Holy Month. I am a Muslim Man in a similar situation but Alhumdulilah, Allah is my companion. For Allah I fast for and Whatever Allah has decreed no one can change it. I try to stay away from the Dunya and shows like Jeopardy. InshaALLAH, the sister's Iman will grow this month.. Have a righteous Fast this Ramadan....

desigirl

10/28/2003 01:17:01 PM

I totally understand how the author of this article feels!!! I myself and an over 30 muslim woman who has just about given up on the hope of marriage. However, I wish Asma, as well as other single women like her, would use Ramadan as a time to understand their intrinsice worth as human beings--with or without a man at her side!

dunner99

10/28/2003 05:08:08 AM

YahyaBergum asked: "...would sisters who were born into Islam consider reverts to be potentially suitable candidates for marriage?" My wife obviously considered the possibility: she is a born Muslim and I am her revert husband. The only thing was, I traveled half-way around the world before meeting her. :) Ramadan Mubarak!

YahyaBergum

10/28/2003 01:32:50 AM

As a married man, I am still trying to figure out why any man would ever want to cook, clean and help raise the children for more than one woman. Admittedly, I am a revert. Alhamdulillah! So - just out of curiosity - would sisters who were born into Islam consider reverts to be potentially suitable candidates for marriage? Again, this particular revert is not interested in more than one wife. Jazak Allah! Ramadan Mubarak!

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