Staying Power

In a recent New York Times article entitled "Spiritual Issues Lead Many to the Net," writer Mindy Sink looks at several websites where people who are struggling with their beliefs can talk about leaving their faith. A couple sites for former Amish or Seventh Day Adventists are mentioned, but the predominant emphasis is on Mormons who need support as they find "the strength to leave the church."

The article quotes Steven Waldman, editor in chief of Beliefnet.com, as saying "The Internet allows for both--people to strengthen their faith and to explore others faiths. The number of message boards about leaving your faith are tiny in comparison to those for people staying in their faith."

I wish that had been the opening line of the article, instead of the final one. The article implies that former Latter-day Saints, more than others, crave validation in their choice to leave the church. I grieve that those who face "turmoil in their spiritual lives" have been treated like "traitors to their faith." I also grieve that many find leaving the only option if they find themselves struggling.

As a Beliefnet columnist and committed Latter-day Saint Christian, I want to make my purpose clear. I want to be a support to people in my church. That means being a support to those who are happy as clams and to those who may struggle with their membership. I want to be a testament that one can struggle and still "feel to sing the song of redeeming love" (See Alma 5 in the Book of Mormon). One can feel simultaneously connected and uncomfortable. One can participate fully and joyfully and chafe at an array of practices, patterns or pronouncements. One can still stay. Any call to spiritual life is not for the faint of heart. Paradox is an important principle.

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