Ring of Silence

The only way I may completely connect with my autistic grandson is through God.


06/07/2009 10:42:48 PM

I remember seeing in our great nephew's face his fear of those around him when he was a toddler. Taken prematurely due to his mother's toxic blood condition, I often think what a shock it must have been to be removed from the comfort of his mother's womb not yet ready for the world. And then to be shot up with drugs and placed under a fluorescent light or warming lamp and more.. Today he is a teenager, and although quite different from all others - pure love streams from him to others today...he indeed sees life differently and wants no part of my "hurrying time" what he called my stressed out manner trying to get things done in an unreasonable time frame. There is something to learn fro him - and I can only hope to remember life as he sees it and in the end for that tranquil communion in God.


04/20/2007 01:28:24 PM

Being a mom of a son diagnosed with Autism/PDD at the age of two, I know how hard it is and the stuggles you have to endure. I just wished my dad had lived long enough to know his grandson


04/12/2007 07:08:18 PM

Autism is so complex and must be very hard for parents to deal with. I have worked with a few autistic children, each different from the other (like most children) but still under that umbrella. It is comforting,I'm sure, to feel that they are understood by a God and that someday everyone will be together after death, with that child/adult and be able to understand him/her. However one must deal with the autistic child here and now. Hopefully death is a long way off and there will be a lot of time to love and be as close to an autistic child as he/she will let them.


09/08/2006 09:57:38 AM

Sex with a breast-feeding woman is incredible. Tastes great!


09/08/2006 08:12:55 AM

I breastfed all four of my children{my daughter the longest-over 2 yrs} and it just seems ridiculous to me,but there are men who become jealous over this issue.Mine did.The thing is if you keep dad envolved in their care,such as letting him bathe them so he has the same closeness you have as a mother who is breastfeeding I believe that will help to feel you still need him and he wont feel left out.Also you can pump and let him hold the baby close to him and have his private time too with your child.As far as having the child sleep in your bed with you,I did and it was easier for me because I could relax and catnap while they were eating but I wouldnt advise it because it becomes habit and can cause problems with you and your spouse because you still need that time with your spouse to hold one another so he knows he is still loved.


09/08/2006 02:32:15 AM

I breastfed my son and he failed to thrive on it, losing almost 2 lbs in his 1st month. Found out that the lack of sleep & added physiological demands on my body was reducing the caloric content of my milk. My pediatrician assigned my husband to the middle of the night feeding with a bottle of soy based formula and I demand breast fed the remainder of the feedings. This reversed the wt. loss trend of the baby, helped me get more rest and allowed us to extend our breastfeeding significantly. Seeing my son thrive was far better than being devoted to breast milk only. I believe in some cases, it does help to supplement and it shouldn't be a cause for any furor.


09/07/2006 04:07:31 PM

One of the reasons there was such an outcry against Rabbi Boteach's article is that so few women do Breastfeed for more than 2-3 months... let alone the 2 years recommended by the WHO. Instead of saying supplement or give up the family bed (which makes breastfeeding so much easier...esp when the kids are young), why not talk about resources like the La Leche League and Mothering Magazine that can help women?? You can pump if you choose to work or go out. And one's sex life need not be hampered by breastfeeding or cosleeping...


09/06/2006 10:43:51 PM

Rabbi Boteach makes a lot of sense. I've never understood why the bottle-vs-breast debate always has to be conducted in such all-or-nothing terms. I breastfed each of my three kids for 13 months. But I found that simply supplementing one bottle a day made a huge difference. (I tried pumping but for me it was too painful). With just one supplemental bottle, I was able to have one six hour period during the day when I was able to go to work, go on a date with my husband, or get six uninterrupted hours of sleep. My husband got to bond with the baby for one feeding a day. Had I felt an obsessive need to stick to breast-only, I don't know that I'd have been able to continue for 13 months. But with that small concession, I was able to continue for more than a year, with my kids receiving 90% of their nutrition from breast milk. Seems reasonable to me.