Coming of Age

How my faith honors the mothers of tomorrow


03/21/2009 01:48:20 PM

Apart from showing respect, Ritu Kala ceremony was also conducted in Hindu homes for telling the world that their precious daughter is ready for marriage and informing every one else to treat their daughter as a “lady” and not just a “girl.” We stopped that completely since Hindu girls themselves objected to that practice and families did not want their daughters married off at a tender age. Now a days, every family wants their daughters get well educated before getting married. .


08/14/2005 01:15:59 AM

I think it's sad that these traditions are dying out, despite efforts to preserve them, because of the westernization, modernization, and homogenization of the world. The fact is, almost every culture has a celebration to welcome its young people into the world of adulthood. This is even more so for women, I think, because it also signals the earliest point when they can get married and pregnant. This may not be in line with feminist thinking, but at its core, these festivals celebrate the holiness of procreation. Be it quinceanera, bat mitzvah, or cotillion, these events help recognize the importance and maturation of women in society. As a note: Many boys in India go through a ceremony called the upanayanam, which bestows a sacred thread to them and officially makes them men in the eyes of society (like a bar mitzvah in Judaism). For women, the actual equivalent of this is the marriage ceremony, where they receive the mangalya sutras (wedding necklace, similar to sacred thread).


07/18/2005 06:45:26 PM

Ramya, I think your tradition for ritu kala samskara is a lovely ceremony by the Hindus carried on to show respect to their heitage as young women just starting out. In your greatgrandmothers day it served a physical purpose of what was expected of them by their extended families. The young women of Hindu heritage in America are part of the American culture and think rightfully as an American.