A Historic Moment
Amidst protests outside and discord inside, Reform rabbis passed a momentous resolution
Now I know a little of what Thomas Jefferson must have felt as he signed the Declaration of Independence, or Thurgood Marshall after the Brown decision. There is a unique quality of both awe and relief at the culmination of a campaign both historic and hard fought. For me, that experience came on Wednesday, March 29, when America's Reform rabbis voted overwhelmingly that the relationship of a same-gender couple is "worthy of affirmation through appropriate Jewish ritual."
After the precedent-setting vote, which was one of the first to put a major mainstream American religious group on record in favor of gay marriage, the room broke out in extended applause, cries of joy, and the chanted melody of the traditional Jewish prayer recited at sacred occasions. Shouts of "Mazal tov!" rang out throughout the room, recalling the usual finale of a wedding itself. The only thing missing was breaking the glass.
Until this happy conclusion, the annual meeting of the Central Conference of American Rabbis (CCAR) in Greensboro, N.C., had been rather tense. Picketers, including anti-gay activist the Reverend Fred Phelps, staged a rally outside the hotel where the convention was taking place. Rabbis had to walk past demonstrators yelling, "Jew fags go home" in order to reach meetings. Inside the hotel, security was tight, and rabbis were required to show picture ID in order to be registered. This created a strange and unsettling atmosphere; mild-mannered liberal rabbis don't expect to be carded in order to enter Talmud study sessions or discussions on how to promote high school trips to Israel.
The heightened security was not all that was unusual; we were also more uneasy with each other than in normal circumstances. Debates in regard to same-sex marriage at previous conventions and on our Internet list had been extraordinarily acrimonious, feelings had been hurt, egos wounded. Many of us worried whether we could regain the sense of collegiality and joint sacred purpose that is the hallmark of our clergy association.
When the conference opened last Sunday, there were two competing resolutions on the issue of same-gender unions. One, presented by the Women's Rabbinic Network, strongly supported rabbinic officiation at such ceremonies. The other was a resolution brought by rabbis who choose not to officiate and who wanted some recognition of the legitimacy of their position. As the week progressed, it became clear that neither resolution would pass by a substantial enough majority to make a decisive statement for our movement. Both sides scrambled to get enough votes, and then came to the realization that a compromise was necessary.