T.D. Jakes: It's time to forgive
He's the pastor of one of the biggest churches in America. He says it's time to "Let It Go" so that you and I can be forgiven
He also writes about how he learned that anger is not always negative.
“Anger sets boundaries and limitations. It lets people know when they’ve gone too far. It causes of us to snatch our children out of harm’s way and protect those we love. Anger fuels our adrenaline glands for fight or flight. The Bible says be angry and do not sin, so anger in itself is definitely not a sin."
“The Bible says that anger rests in the bosom of fools. It is not the presence of anger that is destructive, but when you sleep on it and live with it and rehearse it and allow it to turn into bitterness. It develops a kind of toxicity that is a deterrent to your well-being, your happiness and your health – how you raise your children and how you react to the most simple conflicts.
“Jesus says clearly offenses will come. No matter who you are, the one
guarantee you have about life is that you be offended. The book is about how you deal with those offenses.”
“It has less to do with the guilty person’s reaction to it. It’s about coming into a place where you say, ‘I’m not going to be victimized twice by allowing this to continue to operate in my life and affect my judgment.'
“Understand that forgiveness is not a white flag of defeat.
“No, it’s a first step.
“But I think what I really wanted to say in this book is to share with people that if you hold on to anger and unforgiveness, you’re not available for what’s next.
“You’re not ready yet for what God has for you.”