Question: Where is the line between not having an issue with anything and enabling or allowing? I don’t understand where I must “forget myself” and where I must stand up for something.
Answer: One should always try to “forget oneself” whenever one’s feelings about a matter are more centered around oneself — one’s image, opinion or pride — than they are with the event that stirs these sentiments; and one should stand up for what is right whenever the cost of that stance costs one something real, as in one’s image, opinion, or pride.
If we knew that the universe was set up for our higher transformation, and that Love is the underlying force in everything we see, and don’t see, we would never give in to the fear that keeps us locked in a prison of thought. So here’s something to remember that will always put the moment back into the right perspective: All things good come to those for whom the Good is all things.
Instead of rushing to a negative conclusion, wait and see. Give Goodness a chance to reveal itself – and it will.
To have courage does not mean that we will be without fear. Real courage – the kind of courage we need on a day-to-day basis to act with integrity in our business and personal relationships – is our willingness to face our fears directly. And this goes much deeper than something like going against a fear of heights or asking your boss for a raise. Being able to take actions like that, or even more subtle ones, like having the courage not to say a hurtful word when angry, comes from an interior transformation.
In order to understand the nature of real courage – and therefore to be able to act from it in all situations – requires a new kind of self-understanding that begins with the following idea: we wouldn’t need courage if we weren’t struck with some form of fear, and none of us fear any particular moment without an unconscious feeling passing through us that somehow the moment, the situation, is greater than our ability to use it for the expansion of our character.
Genuine courage is a certain wellspring of strength residing within us that’s born of the understanding that there’s no such thing as a moment – any moment – that is greater than our ability to grow from it.
Living in fear of what dwells within you – whatever it may be that you deny, or that you don’t want others to know about – is how darkness ensures you remain just outside the circle of Divine healing Light.