Grief is less a linear step-by-step process and more of a roller coaster.
Grief can not be crossed off your to do list. It is not finite. It cannot be “worked through,” as Freud first thought when he wrote Mourning in Melancholia. Instead, as Dr. George Bonnano writes in his groundbreaking book, The Other Side of Sadness, feelings of actue grief wax and wane.